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Should I (21/M) talk to my (22/F) girlfriend of two months about the fact that we might have differing views on having kids?

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She mentioned in passing on one of our first dates that she didn't really see herself having kids, but we haven't talked any more about it. I forget if I mentioned that I always thought I would have kids. I'm not 100% sure or anything - it'll definitely depend on a lot of circumstances - but I just imagined it happening. We haven't talked about it since.

I don't want to bring it up for fear of it ending our relationship (which I think is the best relationship of either of our lives so far), but I don't want to waste her time and end up hurting her a year from now with information I could provide now.

Of course, 21 and 22 is pretty young to know stuff like that. I definitely won't want to have a kid for another 7-10 years. I'm pretty sure I'd be ok with dating her for a year and then if we both are pretty set on opposite views on kids, splitting up, but I don't want to hurt her. Should we talk about it now or is it too soon?

TL;DR: Should I tell my new girlfriend who probably doesn't want kids that I probably want kids, even though we're pretty young and it might end a good relationship?

Posted Jul 16, 2017, 9:30 PM UTC

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