Its come to this

My mom wants to see me, but we have had such a terrible and neglectful and mind-boggling dumb past that i just cant deal with her anymore; i live in Washington state, she lives in Mexico, and i don't know how to talk to her about anything.

If you read a post here before about mom acts like she cant hear until she hears the "right answer, that's me. This time I've agreed to see her when she comes to visit family in Vegas only because ive told her countless times that we are not in a good place, to which she countered with "i been sick" and her evil ass guilt-ed me in to coming to visit because we just lost her mom to cancer, and now its her who is telling me she wont be around much longer, but bear in mind shes not diagnosed with cancer, she just had some biopsy and is waiting for the results.

This is so unfair! Half of me wants to put things behind and be there for my mom, but i hardly know the woman, and she's more than really screwed me in the past by breaking promises and just not being there. I even explained this over the phone today to her, bloody clearly, because i got mad that she was so nonplussed about me coming to vegas, like i can just afford to take the time off let alone the hotels and everything because i dont talk to her side of the family, like it was a perfect opportunity for us to catch up, and i told her how inconsiderate she was about the whole situation because she never listens to what i have to say and that i cant feel bad about telling her how it is because i write things down when we talk to keep track.

I want to meet her face to face to tell her i never want her to call me, i really wish things were different, but they are not.