Selfish Sex

This is just a random gripe/vent.

Sometimes I just feel like getting some oral and being done with it :-/ I've actually pretended not to be interested in sex, even when I was horny, just because I didn't feel like dealing with the penetration and mess.

Like how a man can get a blowjob and then go about his day. Sometimes I just want selfish sex but it seems like women are expected to be responsible for our own orgasms AND our men's orgasms too.