Could I be an ISFJ?

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Female, 22, currently relaxed.

Describe yourself as a person if you were to introduce yourself to someone else like in a cover letter. What kind of person are you and why?

I don’t know what I’d say in an actual cover letter if I were introducing myself, so I’m just going to describe myself. I’m easygoing, really relaxed most of the time, hardly get stressed or worried about things, and I love to enjoy life. I’m pretty lazy and I’m hard to motivate. Even if I want to do something like lose weight, it’s hard for me to actually get motivated and dedicate time and effort into losing weight, partially because I really love food. I don’t have life goals, I have no idea what I want to do in the future, and I’m not an ambitious person. I’m easy to get along with, can converse about many topics so I guess I’m pretty open-minded, and I like to keep things peaceful. Because I’m all about peace and comfort, I don’t like doing things out of my comfort zone and I’m very conflict-averse. I’m accommodating, have a hard time making any of my own decisions or taking initiative, and I’m an agreeable person. I typically either have strong opinions or no opinion at all (or not really). I’m extremely materialistic, have a hard time saving money, and I’m interested in anything aesthetically pleasing including fashion or anything beauty related, photography, and interior design. I’m not a risk taker, like stability and security, and have a good memory for detail. I’m ethical, reserved, shy, and it’s hard for me to get close to people and feel comfortable with them to the point where I’d open up or express my feelings to them. I’m pretty bad at dealing with people who are being emotional to me. I’m kind of a follower as opposed to a leader and I’m very passive and easily taken advantage of.

What were you like as a child? Think about how you were in school, with friends, and at home with your family.

As a child, I was friendly and active; I liked playing sports as a child, but now I’m very physically inactive. In the classroom, I was a good student, but I was also quiet and hardly ever participated. A lot of my friends in school enjoyed bullying me, not because they thought something was wrong with me, but because they just thought it was fun to hit me or pick on me since I never did anything back to them and never spoke up for myself. At home with my family, I was helpful; I used to help my mom with chores a lot, and she said that I was fast with my hands, but that I’m now too slow. When I was still in elementary, I enjoyed going outside and traveling to random places with my siblings even though we had no idea where we were going. I wasn’t that obedient to my parents at home. I still did unsafe activities even though I was told not to, such as go out into the streets alone.

What kind of person would you LIKE to be? Why? What kind of person would you NOT want to be? Why?

I’d like to be someone who’s kind, but able to stand up for themselves and speak up when necessary because I admire people like this. I also want to be someone who has their future envisioned and who are passionate about things because I’m not a passionate person and I have no future dream. I want to be someone who’s artistic and good at writing because even though my writing skills aren’t bad, I want to be even better. I also want to know how to draw really well. I want to be someone who has their shit together/planned out, and is achieving enough to actually go after what they want because those people work hard and have the motivation that I lack.

I don’t want to be someone who’s unethical and selfish because I don’t like those kind of people. Those people who go after what they want at any means necessary without being concerned about how it’ll affect other people annoy me. I don’t want to be someone who’s only concerned about money. I wouldn’t want to be someone who’s excessively pessimistic, worrying about things that could go wrong, and complaining all the time because they drain my energy and annoy me. I also don’t want someone who’s rude and lacks manner or someone who’s aggressive, competitive, and controlling.

Do you think there are any differences to how you described yourself and how people actually perceive you? How do you think others would describe you? If there are any discrepancies between these two that are you are aware of; do you know why exactly that is?

For the most part, I believe the way I described myself is how people perceive me. One discrepancy is that people see me as lazier than I actually am because most of my friends are friends I made back in high school, and that was when I was so lazy to the point where it was too much. In high school, I didn’t care about my grades at all and I all I did was enjoy life and disregard my responsibilities like homework and studying. I’m a lot less lazy than I once was before. People also underestimate my intellect; a lot of my friends think I’m a bit dumb, but I’m actually not. Others would describe me as chill, funny, a spender, open-minded, shy, a pushover, slow-paced, too agreeable, nice, helpful, and friendly. They would also describe me as a homebody, lazy, easily irritated, indecisive, and two-faced. A long time ago, many people thought I was a big mouth who liked to gossip too much.

What in life do you find to be of importance? Why?

I believe it’s important to be happy and stress-free in life. I don’t think people should overwork themselves too much or expect too much out of life just in case they end up struggling to meet those expectations and as a result, get stressed out and/or unhappy. I believe it’s important to just do what makes you happy otherwise you’ll live a life you won’t really like, and you might end up regretting the path you took because you aren’t living life how you prefer to live it. To me, happiness is more important than things like money or status. I also believe it’s important to treat others how you want to be treated, and to not deceive people.

How do you react to new situations in your life? Can you describe an event in your life where you were in an unknown situation? How did you deal with it?

I don’t adapt to change as quickly or easily as I’d like to. I feel like it might be because I’ve become so comfortable and situated in a situation I’m already used to, and that makes me more hesitant to change. That along with not knowing what to expect. If the new situation isn’t anything too big (traveling, trying a new activity, etc) I’m fine with it for the most part. However it’s kind of bad if it’s something like a new job or anything that involves waiting to know what the outcome will be (good or bad). I was put in an unknown situation when I started working a completely different job, and I disliked not knowing how I’d end up performing after training, which was hard for me. Because of that, I quit during training. Another situation was when my family and I moved into a new house. For that, I reacted and adapted pretty well. I did prefer my old home, but it was easy for me to get used to living in the new house.

Please describe yourself when you are in a stressful situation. How do you act and why?

When I’m stressed, I’m more easily irritated and prefer others to not bother me. Besides that, I don’t really know because I don’t catch myself stressed out that often. I guess I’m also more impulsive and irrational when I’m stressed out, and want to make hasty choices without thinking clearly first.

Describe your relationship to socialization. How do you perceive one-on-one interaction? How do you perceive group interaction?

I’m okay with socializing if it isn’t for too long because if it’s too long, I start to get tired. One on one interactions are nice if I’m comfortable with the person and they’re easy to talk to, but if not then I prefer group interaction. Actually just in general, I prefer group interaction because I can listen more than speak whereas in a one to one interaction, it’s always a back and forth exchange between me and the other person. If I’m not involved in the interaction though, I find one on one interactions more appealing because they seem more intimate and from an outside perspective, it would seem like the two people have a really strong connection. However for me personally, I’d rather be involved in a group interaction.

Describe your relationship to society. What are the elements of it you hold important or unimportant (e.g. social norms, values, customs, traditions)? How do you see people as a whole?

I'd say that most social norms, values, customs, and traditions are okay, but I don't care whether or not they should be kept or followed. However there are some social norms and etc that I don't particularly agree with. I don't have much of an opinion on people as a whole. I guess some people are cool whereas some people are annoying. One thing I always think is that people should stop trying so hard to be who they aren't to the point where they'd do something like act rude to others just because their friends are like that. I feel like many people make things complicated when they don't have to be. Other than all of that, I actually don't pay that much attention to society or anything.

Describe your relationship to authority. How do you perceive authority? What does it mean to you, and how do you deal with it?

I don’t really like authority because many people abuse the power they have. I also dislike authority because I feel like people should treat everybody equally, so I don’t find things like authority, hierarchy, and power appealing. Even if I was in a position of power, I don’t think I’d want to exercise it. In terms of my relationship, I listen to those in authority even if I don’t want to just in case something bad happens to me if I don’t obey them.

Describe your relationship to order and chaos. What do order and chaos mean to you? How do they manifest in your daily life?

I don’t have much of an opinion on order, but I dislike chaos because I like having at least a little bit of control over my situation just so things don’t go out of hand and turn super chaotic, which would be hard for me to deal with.

What is it that you fear in life? Why? How does this fear manifest to you both in how you think and how you act?

I don’t have any strong fears, but I guess I would say that I fear conflict because it’s hard for me to deal with and because I don’t want to make enemies with anyone since it would feel so awkward if I have to see them, knowing that we got into some issues and dislike each other. It’s also just something that makes me uncomfortable. This manifests in how I think and act in that I fear conflict to the point of not standing up for myself even for the simplest things ever, and I can’t even speak up when I know it’s necessary to. Other than that, I also fear public speaking because I hate attention and feeling like people are possibly judging me for either how I look/sound or how my presentation is.

What is it that you desire in life? What do you strive to achieve? Why? Where do you think these drives and desires stem from or are inspired by?

I desire a happy, relaxed life as well as my ideal appearance. I desire all the designer items on my wishlist. I also desire stability and financial security. I don’t know what I strive to achieve lol.

What activities energize you most? What activities drain you most? Why?

The activities that energize me most include listening to music, watching shows and movies, eating good food, being on the computer, and relaxing at home. The activities that drain me the most include being out for too long, being in crowded areas, listening to someone talk excessively without giving me a turn to reply, and anything too physically active.

Finally, is there something else you find to be of importance you want to add about yourself you think might be of relevance when helping to type you?

• My enneagram is 9w1 SP, tritype 269 I think (not in that order).
• My temperament is phlegmatic and sanguine
• I’m not nice or helpful because I care about other people or want them to be happy, but because I either feel obligated to help, want to avoid conflict/haters, or feel like I should be doing something (like holding the door for others, etc) because it’s the right thing to do.
• I’m good at reading other people’s motives and usually pick up vibes about their character when first meeting them.
• I dress for appearance, not for comfort
• I’ve been through a lot of phases in life such as a preppy phase, a gothic phase, a tomboy phase, a scene phase, and stuff like that when I was in my teen years.

Types I'm stuck between: ISFP and ISFJ

Results from similarminds cognitive functions test: highest percent is Si followed by Fi, Se, Fe, Ni, Te, Ne, then Ti.