FAQ: What can I say or do for the widow(er) in my life?

People want to help, it's just hard to know how, especially if they have never gone through the loss of someone close.

What was nice to hear from someone? What was NOT helpful to hear? What did someone do for you that was much appreciated? What did you need or want people to do? What did people do that you did not want or need?

Your answers will be included in the FAQ for this subreddit which will be a living resource for people that visit r/widowers