What do you do when negative parts of our cultures seep into Baha'i consultation?

I get that every Baha'i from every culture deals with this, but I'm wondering how to address it in the moment without destroying unity.

If a group is failing at real consultation as a result of cultural prejudices (for example, men dominating the consultation and talking over women, or highly educated people assuming incompetence or lack of knowledge in those without higher education), how do you address it without destroying the process itself? Reddit culture would probably say we should yell at each other publicly for being stupid until somebody gets bored or has to go to bed, but that's clearly not in line with the Writings.

I know many Baha'is who seem to have a gift for providing loving, tactful guidance to others on the spot, but I struggle with this skill. (That's part of my own cultural baggage, where wit is often valued over kindness in conversation.) Do you have any tips for addressing these kinds of issues without derailing whatever tenuous unity might already exist?

Note: I've had issues before where I've asked for advice in this subreddit and some folks took it as an opportunity to complain about how awful their own community is. I have no problem deleting the entire thing if it turns into a vehicle for backbiting. I'd really appreciate it if I didn't have to, though.