Requesting Translation--Response to my NC letter from uBPD Mother.

Apologies for Great Wall O' Text...I was having formatting issues.

My mother is not only a raging alcoholic, she also is undoubtably uBPD with plenty of other Cluster B features.

I finally decided that it was time to officially go no contact. In working with my therapist about this, we walked through how to handle her response. I predicted she would either: 1.) No response 2.) Rage 3.) Act pathetically

Well, she still has tricks up her sleeve. I don't even know how to characterize her response. Here's the relevant portion of my NC email for context:

In the past, all I have asked for is the following:

1.) Be sober in my presence.

2.) Respect my boundaries.

3.) Try the one thing you haven't tried so far: being completely and unflinchingly honest with your therapists and pursuing real help for the first time in your life.

Since you have not complied with items 1-3, I am adding #4:

4.) Do not contact me again until you are ready to release permission for me to talk to your therapist about your progress in recovery. At that point, based off of how truthful you've been with her and where I am emotionally, I'll re-evaluate my own capacity and willingness to engage in your life and recovery.

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Her response, in direct violation of #2 and 4, manages to find a way to bring up my sister's miscarriage and my elderly dog who is the light of my life:

"Honey, just wanted to let you know that I got your email today and will respond soon. I have a lot to think about, meditate on.

I have decided to take a day trip (it's only 90 miles) to XXXXX tomorrow. It's one of the few days I don't have an appointment with my PCP, the cardiologist, the podiatrist or therapist, Home Physical Therapy, or an AA meeting, so I want to take advantage of it. XXXX is the place where I have ALWAYS felt the most spiritual and closest to God. I found out (while I was in the PT Rehab, from a lady who lives there, that the dear old priest who had been there forever had passed away. He prayed with me when we were there in October, 2014, because I told him that my daughter who had lost a baby was pregnant again. Anyway, he prayed in Spanish, then patted me on the arm and said, "Your Nina and baby will be fine." Then he asked me to help him up the hill to the gift shop because he was thirsty.) I haven't looked it up yet, but the lady at the PT place told me that there was a book about him and I should look on Amazon. I wish he was still there.

Anyway, I digress.

Thank you for your email. Would you please let me know how [Soulstice Cleaner's 14 year old dog] is doing? He's been on my mind a lot.

I will be in touch soon.

I love you,

Mom"

Then, minutes later! I got a second email: "Here is a picture of the mountains from my living room."

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I responded with the following:

Please see item #4:

4.) Do not contact me again until you are ready to release permission for me to talk to your therapist about your progress in recovery. At that point, based off of how truthful you've been with her and where I am emotionally, I'll re-evaluate my own capacity and willingness to engage in your life and recovery.

This email is a prime example of violation of #2:

2.) Respect my boundaries.

You are clearly incapable of doing anything I ask.

I am reforwarding the entire email stream to you again.

Any unsolicited contact from this point forward that are not in accordance to #4 will be handled with a reforward of the same email or no response at all. I am not engaging with you further.

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How sick and out of touch is someone that responds to a NC letter like that?! A huge issue I have had with her since I was a teenager was not feeling heard or taken seriously, so this was massively upsetting to receive, almost more so than if she had been rageful.

What do I even make of it, other than she's completely tone deaf and NC is the right thing to do?