Looking for advise here

After being forced out of a previous relationship because family dosent like race of said girl, I find myself in a depressed state where work and going to the gym has been my only means of getting over it.

Fast forward 3 months, I'm more content with my physique, and in a financially well off, but I feel no "joy" or any click in talking to other women, I feel like if I talk to someone else, what runs through my head is either they think I'm not tall enough, I'm not buff enough, skin color, etc.

I tried to put myself out there, but it's all these insecurities that I feel are holding me back, or is it something I'm not quite understanding? What do?