TW - Choosing female friends who are versions of your mother.

Recently, I've gone very low contact with my former college roommate because I realize that she doesn't add anything to my life, only takes.

When I first started dating my partner a little over two years ago, my college roommate and I were still in pretty close text contact, messaging all the time on Whatsapp and the like. I wanted to find the texts I'd sent her regarding how I felt when I met my partner so I could show him, they were super sloppy adorable head over heels stuff, it was cute.

I found them. And it just. Filled me with this blind rage. Because, I am describing this person I just started dating, and I say "we had dinner once together, and I think that was a date!" and she responds "I really don't know if its the birth control or the infection or the fact that i am in pain all of the time but I'm so frustrated with [my boyfriend] again"

What. The. Fuck.

Looking back on my friendships, I have had 3 distinct very close female friends who were uBPD.

There must have been something in me drawn to them, and I must have been putting out something to draw them in at the same time. Like..they could fucking smell it.

Is that a thing other people do? Select their crazy parents as friends, and then let them suck your energy dry until you finally realize what's happening?

EDIT: It's a cat. I forgot a cat. I'm doing a rat instead, cause....look at his wee little snout! http://imgur.com/gallery/q4KLsPJ