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MerryMacattack

Need some advice

Last year when I was a freshmen (fall), I rushed and pledged a frat. I ended up dropping pledging for a multitude of reasons but I think the main reason was that I just hated pledging and I wasn't sure if it was going to be worth it in the end. I have other reasons but I'm pretty sure I just used those as extra excuses to drop cause I'm a spineless piece of shit.

Now, in the first semester of sophomore year, I'm starting to really regret it. I wish I hadn't dropped. I have some friends I made last year and I've got buddies from highschool here too (good friends), but I don't feel a connection to anyone. I don't feel like anyone cares that I'm here. Even when I was pledging, the brothers treated me like I was more important than I've ever been treated since. I also feel like I don't have any confidence, especially with girls, and I feel like being in a fraternity would teach me real life lessons on how to be confident.

What should I do? Is rushing in the 2nd half of my sophomore year even worth it? I honestly would rush the fraternity I dropped just because my old pledge class is all there and I love those guys, but I feel like they probably hate me for ditching them and think I'm just a loser who's crawling back to them cause I couldn't get into parties.

TL;DR dropped pledging last year, regret it, don't know if its too late to try again

Umass Amherst, UMA, University of Massachusetts Amherst, (this is me trying to get past the fucking bot)

Posted Sep 21, 2017, 1:15 AM UTC

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DrDoItchBig•

Just rush dude what's the worst that will happen

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MerryMacattackOP•

I just don't know if the frat hates me for ditching them. I feel like a major piece of shit for it. I left them. They even reached out to me to try to get me to stop but me and all my fucking arrogance thought I was making the right decision.

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DrDoItchBig•

If you have a close friend there just tell them that, if not just rush there heavy and they'll probably still like you. Most fraternities won't "hate" you unless you left them for a different one

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highestup•

Dropping pledging was a shitty decision. Granted, everyone on this board has all made a multitude of shitty decisions and we're all still here waiting for frat talk Friday every weekend so regardless you're gonna be ok. Idk if I would rush the same fraternity, being a quitter pledge, at least in my chapter, means most likely pledging will not only be 10x harder, but we are also going to degrade you a lot more and not help you with shit, because you already let down one pledge class of ours, who are now actives. They will fucking hate you. They ALREADY do hate you. There's nothing I hate more than the shit bags who quit on me during pledging when she wasn't even close to being the worst, because when they quit, it was MY fault for them quitting.

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MerryMacattackOP•

fuck, you really think they hate me?

Also, if they really hated me and were going to degrade me 10x more, why would they give me a bid again in the first place? It would mean they were giving me a second chance I feel, and maybe they could stop hating me.

And you do recommend rushing again right? I just wanna fucking belong somewhere. I have friends but really, I don't give a fuck about them and they don't give a fuck about me. We're just buddies who smoke and eat together. They wouldn't notice if I'm gone. They don't notice if I'm gone.

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highestup•

giving you a bid again means those pledge bros you once had are now actives that have the ability to haze your dick off. If youre serious about it by all means take that bid, but know that it wont be any easier, those reasons you quit in the first place will come back to you and float in your mind, but no matter you what youll initiate if you dont quit or get cut. If you want a fresh start, which if i were you I probably would, Id look at different houses. But again if youre serious about that house follow your heart. Id say they cant kill you but obviously some fraternities like to kill pledges (I guess it helps their image), but odds are youll survive pledgeship.

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MerryMacattackOP•

looking back the pledging wasn't even that bad. It was mostly just the time spent doing things.

Also do you think there would be hard feelings or some bullshit like that after I initiated?

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highestup•

Once you initiate, you initiate; which means you earned it, whether you've quit before or not, they're your brothers.

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Frockin_DudeSquid•

you're probably fucked good luck though

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MerryMacattackOP•

You mean I'm fucked like I wouldn't get a bid, or I'm fucked if I do end up pledging and get hazed like a motherfucker

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J3ST3RRΛΧΑ•

Yes

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ArabTaco•

Which frat is this at UMass? Might have an idea of how it would go

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MerryMacattackOP•

AEPi

if you went and told them you saw this post, they would know exactly who I am lmfao, so don't do that I'm trusting you

edit: your name isn't Kostas is it

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ArabTaco•

I have no interest in doing that, but I thought AEPi was in a fickle situation regarding their position on campus

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MerryMacattackOP•

I don't really know all too much about that tbh. I had heard they got in trouble or something and that they weren't allowed to have any new pledge classes but I'm pretty sure I've seen them doing rush stuff so maybe I heard wrong.

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BlackFaceWaffle•

I know a kid that just pledged so they're definitely still doing shit, they might get in more trouble bc I heard the kid that died the other day was leaving there,

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MerryMacattackOP•

What frat are you in if you don't mind me asking

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