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PyroDefender

Not having sex on the first couple of dates

Any other guys not have sex till a couple of dates in? With my current boyfriend we didn't do anything really untill four dates in. Our first few dates went like this: 1st date kissed once 2nd cuddling 3rd more cuddling 4th while cuddling (fully clothed) he pushed his back into my groin (getting poked pretty well), smiled mischievously at me, then I unceremoniously shoved my hand down his pants and grabbed his dick.

Now we have sex about every couple days. Neither of us really like anal either so we have never done that.

Posted Oct 20, 2017, 7:26 AM UTC

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Any other guys not have sex till a couple of dates in?

I consider this to be an attractive quality.

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notrobbstark•

Yes. Especially if I just met him online, and the IRL version didn't match the instagram version. Some people are just prettier with filters. It's like false advertising. Hehe.

Seriously though, I agree with no sex on the first dates. You go to dates for the prospect of relationship and companionship, and sex is just added bonus.

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theghostofmyjoy•

This rules never worked for me. You get a bit attached or feel some sort of connection and when you fuck it all goes to shit, because you´re not sexually compatible.

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mbbysky•

Or he was faking it all to get into your pants and ghosts you after you bang

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theghostofmyjoy•

Could be, which I´m glad about since they sucked in bed and not in a good way.

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indie_rocker685•

It depends on the situation I suppose. I've dated guys that I held out on because I didn't want the relationship to be based on sex. But the guy I'm currently seeing was originally just supposed to be a hookup. There was so much chemistry, it was like nothing I've ever experienced.

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poeandfinn•

Same

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JinkiesGangAClue•

Nah I’ll bang whenever.

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rr90013•

Yea, it’s totally fine to wait until you feel ready. I think it’s good to wait a little while so you build up an emotional connection before you go full on fucking — otherwise your first date will feel like a hookup, and that’s not a good start to something you want to last.

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taaffe7No Fats, no fems, no Asians•

Well the first dates are usually us going for drinks not going back to theirs or mine

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bippityboppotyboo•

Depends on the guy really

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aghaiz•

I don't have sex until I know it's going somewhere. haven't had sex since february but whatever. whoever i end up with will have months of sexual frustration to pound out.

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Hung4str8•

Last guy...fucked him on all 3 "dates" then he wanted a relationship. Um, no.

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slashcleverusername•

I don’t really enjoy sitting next to a stranger on the train so no I would not enjoy fucking one.

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