33 [M4F] AZ – Sadistic Sir seeks sultry slave

As an experienced dominant, I most closely identify as a sadist. However, that single aspect does not wholly define me. My sadistic pleasures are derived more from depriving a submissive, rather than merely hurting her to hurt her. Impact play with floggers, paddles and crops are some personal favorites coupled hand in hand with spankings and slappings. The dichotomy I seek is to put a submissive in a predicament where she must choose pain or pleasure or an oscillation between the two. The grin on my face or short chuckle that escapes my lips as she struggles to create a balance between the two is my pleasure.

About me:

I am an intelligent, strong, independent homeowner who started life from the bottom of the food chain. The Army transformed me from a lost adolescent to a confident adult who knows what he wants and wants what he knows. Since then, I have gone from seeing the destructive side of life to embracing the more creative side as an Engineer. While astrological signs weigh little to me, I am a Gemini and can identify easily with an internal duality between myself. I can empathize for and against both sides, and personally struggle to live on an infinitely thin grey line with each foot on either side.

I am highly adaptable to most situations, both in the vanilla world and the lifestyle. However, there are some things I am passionate about, and will not budge even in the face of a bulldozer. I am a man of strong morals and principals but I am not religious. I am a protector of those I care for and a soldier against those who harm. I am a hopeless romantic who wants to treat my girl like a princess and a cruel dominant who wants to treat my slave like a piece of property. I want to have my cake and then fuck it and eat it too.

What I am seeking:

I am looking for an intelligent, independent female for a lifestyle relationship. I am not into flings, casual hook ups or anything that will be a waste of my time. I want a friend, someone who I can love and cherish. While I understand some people in the lifestyle can have playful relationships between friends, I cannot. I want to place a great deal of trust in someone, just as I expect her to wholly trust me. While I have used the terms submissive and slave interchangeably, ultimately I seek someone more on the slave side. I want a high protocol lifestyle, but am open to negotiating/scheduling/offering ‘free time’ to accommodate physical & mental breaks as well as vanilla life in general (e.g. illness, have to visit family, etc). Shit Life happens, and it is unrealistic to think something 24/7 will always be 24/7.

I want someone who can be my partner in crime, and take off the slave hat visibly to go out on the town with friends or to have a nice dinner. Some lifestyle requirements would still be expected but she should be able to blend in as vanilla as possible. I am not afforded the ability to be ‘loud & proud’ about the lifestyle in the vanilla world, as it may jeopardize certain aspects of my life. I seek someone who will communicate emotional and physical needs as they arise. Someone who is willing to compromise to work as a team.

Kinks:

I have far too many kinks for this list to be all inclusive, but I shall describe some of my favorite protocols, punishments, fantasies, and a few of my interests. In our subsequent in-depth conversations we can talk about which category each falls into as we present what-if scenarios to each other in horny delight.

Remaining nude or in approved attire within the home, speech/eye restrictions, orgasm control/denial, lengthy chastity, buttplugs, always having a hole filled, watersports, being shared/displayed to others of my choosing, verbal degradation/name calling, slapping, spitting, sensory deprivation, confinement to a cage, deepthroat training, rope/chain bondage and crawling/walking restrictions to name a few.

Conclusion:

Ladies, please just remember that while I am asking you to give me all the control, you are still 100% in charge. Established safewords are a must and their use is never a bad thing. Hard limits can be established and soft limits can be explored within your comfort level. I firmly believe that the lifestyle must be dynamic enough to accommodate two partners evolving interests and comfort levels. Variety is the spice of life so something bad today, may actually become something good tomorrow.

I prefer to communicate via the computer (e.g. Skype) in text, working up to voice chats, to cell phones, and beyond. I would prefer locals, but am open to anyone within a reasonable distance from me (SouthEast Arizona). Also, Arizona does not give a fuck about your fancy daylight savings time, so please keep in mind that I oscillate between Pacific and Mountain time if you are not in AZ.

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