Is being overtly sexually active going to prevent someone from being able to project?

So I live with my girlfriend and porn is no stranger to either of us. Is being overtly sexually active going to hinder my ability to project? I feel like I've done so much online research and read so many books already, I can relax myself almost instantly and my diet is fairly good but I can barely get to the vibration stage and whenever I try to concentrate and stay conscious my dream mind takes over, I loose consciousness, and I fall asleep. And if so do I need to go cold turkey on all of it? Is there a gray area? Plz hlp