My (F48) HL and hubbys (M52) LL. Not sure if its libido or other?

So we have in recent months gone through some hard and honest times. I barely put out (maybe once a month if that). He in the meantime had started to watch porn. I did some soul searching and figured although i blamed my LL (at that time) it was more i wasn't that into him through years of disappointment. We communicated and now have a fantastic sex life. My switch was flicked almost over night and now i have a raging libido. The problem is he initiates sex at least 2x per week BUT no morning sex, no middle of the night wake ups. These are things previously done in our earlier days. Im struggling with the fact that after finding out he watched porn for years (and yes i take ownership for that as he couldnt release otherwise), i feel undesirable. If i mention sex he will happily give but i find i am comparing to the 3x a week porn watching he did, and 2x with me. Actually it doesnt have to always finish in sex, or could be playful moves, or cuddles even. He doesnt kiss me (and yes i didnt kiss him for years). We openly communicate and he says his libido isnt wat it was, but again im struggling with my low self esteem or is it just after so many years of him not getting it, hes finding it difficult to change his thinking. He has said he doesnt resent me. He has previously mentioned worrying about his 'performance' but like i said to him, its doesnt need to be sex, it could just be intimacy. To be honest what i really want is to have my bones jumped when i least expect it, i want him hot and horney for me, so i feel desirable!!!! Yes he can always get it up but since porn often needs to finish with a bit of a handjob. Whats the 'normal' sex frequency men have in the 50s?