For those who are married and woke

When raising a child, if you start noticing white worshiping or self hating patterns in their lives and your significant other(SO) is not as woke, how do you deal with this? i.e. you call out white worship or self hatred in your child and your SO doesn't understand and thinks you're overthinking or even being racist. How do you deal with this (because you guys have different parenting styles towards this and other situations)?