Should I try to reach out to a girl I met on bumble, went on a single incredible date with over a year and a half ago, but haven't talked to since even though I still think about her way too often?

It's kinda a long story, but here it goes:

I matched with a girl on bumble back in in maybe December/January of 2015. We talked randomly for a while. She had just moved to my city for law school and was still getting acclimated to the weather so she'd always tell me how cold she was. I told her that if she ever needed me to bring her a blanket to warm her up to let me know. We continued to talk sporadicly until one day in February she messaged me that she might need that blanket. We decided to meet up at a bar that weekend. If I recall correctly, it was February 12 when we met up so maybe she just wanted to go on a date during Valentine's Day weekend.

It was the greatest date that I've ever been on. We met maybe around 7 (it's been a while so I don't recall exactly what time it was) and really hit it off. We ended up talking, laughing, dancing, drinking, kissing, and getting epic late night hot dogs at this bar until 4 AM. We finally left for the night and she invited me back to her place. We started making out and getting handsy when I stopped her and asked if she was too drunk (I was kinda, but I didn't want to take advantage of her). Instead, I ended up spending the night and we cuddled until the next day. I had to leave really early (~8 AM) so we said goodbye.

In the following weeks, we texted more, but it was mostly me initiating, and I asked out for a second date a number of times, but she always said that she was really busy with school (given that she was a first year law student I don't find that hard to believe), but I'd always see her stories on snapchat of her out with large groups of classmates for drinks, etc. After several weeks of this, I gave up. I was crazy into her and I felt like she just wasn't interested so I deleted her number and unfriended her on snap chat. I figured better to rip the bandaid off.

So, now it's been about a year and a half and I've dated other girls since, but I still haven't been able to get this girl and this amazing date out of my head. Randomly, I'll find myself thinking about her and checking out her facebook (we're not friends, but I found her back when we had been talking on bumble). I'm debating messaging her and seeing if she wants to grab drinks or something, but I feel super weird doing it. I feel like a creep because I went on one date with her a long time ago and have pretty much not talked to her since and it seems like she really wasn't interested in pursuing anything back then, so every reasonable part of me says it's a bad idea. But, I don't know. There's just something about her.

tl;dr: Take a gamble and be a creep or dude don't be weird and get over this girl that you never really knew

Posted Oct 28, 2017, 8:33 AM UTC

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