[26/f] I am stuck in limbo with guy [28/m]

Hi Reddit.

Long time lurker, first time poster. I am in an odd situation with someone I met online 1.5 years ago and I am hoping you can provide some insight about how to deal with my obnoxious feelings.

This guy and I met on reddit 1.5 years ago (part of the reason why I am on a throwaway, he visits this sub) and there was a very strong attraction right off the bat. We talked for a while and as things like these usually go, we ended up confessing how we feel to each other.

I'm from Europe, he's in North America and though we have never met I got a very nice job offer from a company in the town next to his. I didn't tell him at first because: 1) I wanted to be sure that I was actually going to take the offer before I broke the news 2) I didn't want to make him feel like I was moving there because of him. This job is going to give me a pay hike, tons of benefits and I'm going to be doing amazing work in a field I am very interested in.

At around this time, we were having a "where is this going?" conversation because none of us want to be in an LDR (personal reasons) but we do feel pretty strongly about each other. Then I get the offer and everything seems to line up so well, right? But I freaked out a bit because it seemed TOO GOOD to be true you know? Fast forward to four rounds of interviews later, I get the offer and I decide to tell him. Of course he is stoked because now there is a chance for "us" to become real.

The thing is, he continues to go on dates with women while making plans with me about what we will be doing once I am there. We have talked about a relationship and both of us have agreed that once I am there we will date - I will be there in three weeks!

Since being there in person is so close, the fact that he continues to go on dates really hurt my feelings. Ever since I told him that I will be moving, he's been demonstrating to me that he would want to build something concrete with me. He recently talked about me at work and told his manager that he will be bringing me to his office New Year's Eve party. He told me that he wants us to meet his mom for her birthday dinner (two days after I arrive) and last night we made a list of places she might like. Which confuses me even more because he seems to be demonstrating that he does want me but on the other hand, the going on dates with other women thing really bothers me. We are not officially together but we do act like it, he's invested in me as much as I am in him. I'm sure I am not being catfished, we've exchanged addresses, I've Skyped with him and his mother, last Christmas he Skyped my sister and I... it's just that we haven't put the label of a relationship on what we share.

How do I deal with these feelings? I've tried hard to ignore them. I asked him about the dates and said I don't like it since me being there is so close and we got into a big argument about it on Tuesday. He thinks that he isn't doing anything wrong since he has no intention of pursuing any of these women. I guess I could see that, but if the roles were reversed and he'd be moving here in three weeks, I'd wait.

Am I wrong to be upset? Am I missing something here? Would appreciate any input! Thank you for reading!

Edit 1: Though I understand that I am not moving there for him, I just don't want to deal with an unpleasant situation where I get hurt. It'll add to the stress of moving to a new country by myself and at least for the first few days he will be the only one I know over there. I guess the thought of things playing out like that is stressing me out just thinking about it.