How do you feel about guests matching your colours?

It wouldnt bother me. Burgundy is so common at that time of year that it would be going too far to be that picky about it.

I mean, they probably wouldn't be wearing the bridesmaid style dress anyways.

I would let it slide, you're going to cause hurt feelings with your guests and honestly you will not care on the day. As a guest I would be annoyed at being told to buy another dress, especially when it fits the dress code.

I think this is one of those things that you (understandably) think will bother you, but it turns out at the wedding that you don’t even notice or care. I had a bridesmaid with purple hair, and three women wore white to my wedding. I was very worked up about the bridesmaid’s hair when I found out the day before, but on the day of the wedding I didn’t give any of it a second thought!

Personally I don't mind at all! My bridesmaids are wearing black because it's easy for them all to match colour wise, but they'll have different styles.

No one else is going to look like a bridesmaid because they won't be stood up at the front with you. I also think unless you had put on your invitation "ladies please wear any colour except burgundy" then you might say no to these ladies and have other ladies who didn't ask/show you turn up in it anyway. In which case if I were the guest told to change my dress I would be so miffed that other people hadn't been made to.

As other people have said, on the day you will be so happy that what other people are wearing won't occur to you at all!

I actually would love it if I could get everybody to dress in fall colors for my wedding. This is actually one of the situations that makes me favor putting bridesmaids in the same dress, though.

I don't think you can tell them to find something else. You can point out that it's the color the bridesmaids are wearing and let them make the decision though.

Of two of the last three weddings I attended I (completely accidentally) ended up wearing dresses that were predominantly the wedding colors. One of the dresses was kind of close cut wise too. That said, my hair/accessories/fabrics made it pretty obvious I wasn't lumped in with the bridal party and I wasn't in any pictures that would have suggested I was so it wasn't a problem even though I felt kind of bad about it.

That very pretty maroon/burgundy is super in now and flattering for many skin tones so I'm not surprised people are choosing it. In fact that was the culprit at one of the weddings (thankfully my dress was mostly lace and the BM dresses were satin), the other the girls were in navy mix and match styles and I had a navy dress but with a small print that made it obviously not a BM dress thankfully.

That said, if i had sent pics ahead of time and gotten feedback along the lines of "hey that's what my BMs are wearing, could you not" I wouldn't have minded wearing something different.

Honestly, I'd let it go. Your bridesmaids will be standing with you during your ceremony and if you have a common reception setup they will be sitting near you at the wedding along with the rest of the bridal party. They also won't likely be in any professional photos with the guests that are wearing similar photos unless they are close friends with them, but in your portraits it'll just be your bridesmaids. I'd let it go, I don't think people will confuse your bridesmaids with the other guests or vice versa.

I think it depends on the shops in your area. Here everything seems to be that colour this year so saying no to them puts them in a difficult position! Personally I don't mind - we picked navy for our bridesmaids because it's a flattering colour they liked- but I expect a lot of guests to choose it for similar reasons! 😂

Also just to ask- are they actually asking for your approval on the dress or just trying to be friendly by telling you? I'm not sure how much I'd like it if I bought a new outfit and got all excited about it (and shared that excitement with bride to show how much I was looking forward to the wedding) only to be shot down?

I didn't care or notice.

are your bridesmaids dresses mismatched? because unless they bought the same dress likely people wont notice.

Although for this years i posted a sneak peek of my wedding colors on our website - some people will see this and say bridemaids will be in that so i'll wear something else - and others will decide they want to match the wedding. either way at least they are coming

I’ve been in a similar boat - had a lovely dress I already owned, asked the bride for any colors to stay away from and what do you know the only color to avoid was the same one as that dress. I shopped my closet and was able to find something not in the bridal colors. I totally was not miffed since I was just a guest.

I think gently mentioning oh you might match the bridal party with that dress. Save it for the bridal shower/rehearsal dinner (if they’re coming to a pre-wedding event).