Found out the in-laws have a lot to say

I didn’t know where else to post this but I figured you all would understand.

We miscarried at 11.5 weeks on October 8. I thought I’ve healed emotionally as much as possible in 4 months. I mean we’re trying again and have come to terms with our experience so far. However, I found out on Saturday that my brother in-law has a lot to say about my husband and I and our loss. He’s been telling other family members that we’re not speaking to him because we’re so jealous that he and his girlfriend get to have a baby and we don’t. I mean it’s not a race with the winner getting a prize at the end. It’s a life. I don’t understand how someone can be that cruel. There are plenty of other around us who are expecting and we’re ok with it. In fact we’re excited for all of them! And we’d be (we are?) excited for BIL too except that he hasn’t been speaking to us. Anyway I feel like all the progress I’ve made has been reversed and like the wound has been ripped wide open again. I guess I’m not looking for advice or anything just having a what the actual hell moment.