Can you enter the military if you're under a restraining order?
Posted Mar 21, 2009, 3:43 AM UTC
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The military welcomes convicted rapists (hardly surprising), so I doubt they'd have a problem with a mere restraining order. From here:
The military is increasingly issuing something called "moral waivers," so they can enlist military personnel with felony convictions for crimes like rape and sexual assault.
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My ex is threatening to torture and murder me. He is not making these threats directly to me, but on a website. I don't know if he is serious or if he is only venting his anger, but a couple weeks ago he did forcibly restrain me and threaten to rape and strangle me. He also destroyed some of my property. I am very afraid of him, as is my immediate family.
He is joining the U.S. military and is set to ship off in the near future. We are grateful for this, as it will keep him away from us for a time. However, I am concerned that he may come after me before he leaves, or that he will come after me while he is on break or after he is discharged.
My family wants to take out a restraining order, but we're afraid that it may only make him angrier or that it will prevent his entrance into the military. Any thoughts?
Holy shit. What are you waiting for? Please tell me you've at least talked to the police...
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I just looked around the Go Army site and it appears that it will not hinder his enlistment if he discloses it. I would advise sending an email to a Army Recuiter to be sure.
Would it matter if he were in the military or not if he was under a restraining order? Either way, he'll be away from you.
Also, please talk to the police. Don't wait till its too late.
Sorry for not replying sooner. My life has been pretty hectic, obviously.
Personally, I'd rather he be under a restraining order AND in the military. I'm just worried that that's not possible. The military is preferable to a restraining order, though, since it's the only thing that can physically prevent him from coming near me.
He's out of the state (left a week before I made the original post) and not directly a threat right now. He's also sent me a bunch of apologetic emails and phone messages—not that I trust him, but it does make me think the worst of his insanity has passed for the moment. I haven't talked to the police for fear that word may get to him.
I HAVE talked to just about everyone I know (and some people I don't!), and I've been organizing files with all the information I know about him and everything that happened between us, just in case.
Somehow, I don't think it's wise to have a guy with this much violent tendencies having free access to arms.
Or it might discipline him up.
Seriously, its not like they give everyone in the military a rifle and loads of ammunition and let them go to town. The military is more refined than what is often posted.
ever watch full metal jacket?