Question about a possible tipping faux pas

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Important point to note - I live in the UK, servers get minimum wage, so tipping is less of a thing.

Yesterday I was out for a meal in a busy restaurant. Not a TGIChilibees but one of those with delusions of grandeur. Not my choice but anyway.

We had a nice server and I always tip anyway, having been a server myself. When it came to pay he was greeting customers so someone else came to take our money. I tip in cash so the servers don't lose anything to credit card fees or have to declare it in tax. When the other staff member took the card he didn't notice the tip. I didn't want the tip to get swiped or to go into the back pocket of someone else (some places in the UK do tip pools, some don't, so it's better just to give the person the tip). As we were leaving our server was at the bar so I took up the tip with me, said thanks very much and left the tip beside him.

My friends said that after I walked out the guy who took our payment (i.e. not our server) lifted the tip from the bar with the most furious expression on his face. I can't figure out why he was pissed off - the tip wasn't for him, and if it was a pooling situation then our server would have had to pool the tip anyway because there were three or four members of staff around when I handed the tip to our original server.

Any thoughts? Did I do something majorly wrong or was that guy just in a snit?

Posted Jul 22, 2018, 7:57 AM UTC

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cradleofdataOP•

Cheers! Maybe yer man was just having a bad day.

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10yearsbehindformer Host + Cook•

Wanna tip like a baller in that situation? Go to server with money folded in right hand. Say something like “I just wanted to say thanks for a great evening” and shake their hand. Leaving the tip in their hand. It can take some practice for optimum timing and smooth factor but you’ll feel like a champ when you pull it off.

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Havishamesque•

One of my earliest serving jobs, back in the 80's, I had three couples with one heavily pregnant lady. Fancy cafe style in the home of Charles Dickens. :) Easy table, I chatted with her about her baby, her first, and they just made my life easy.

When I brought their bill, the lady asked me if we pooled tips, and I said we did. She left a very generous tip with the cheque and did exactly this - palmed a ten pound note (a lot then) and shook my hand. She said I'd made her evening truly outstanding and she wanted to ensure that I knew she appreciated it. I had a moment of guilt, and then realised she really had tipped well on the bill, and it seemed to make her happy to do the extra. And it was obviously memorable for me, as here I am decades later, boring all of you with it. :)

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Low tip on a big bill maybe?

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