Do Some Men Love Being Married?

My guess is that if they say it over and over again they will start to believe it

Stockholm Syndrome.

In the early days, I loved being married. Then my wife turned into a social media addicted, narcissistic whore. Then being married sucked badly.

Sure, why not? 100 people, approx. 240 personalities, approx. 67 tits.

There are some men (from what I've seen across my life I would say many men) who are just constitutionally UNABLE to live "alone"; any house or apartment that doesn't contain at least one other living breathing creature (and ideally a human, though canine is often a semi-workable substitute), is a place they quite literally cannot endure staying in, and often cannot even get to sleep in.

Moreover, many are habituated -- usually due to having been brought up in such an environment -- to the idea that "home" is defined as a noisy, chaotic & drama-filled place (and in at least some cases, specifically that the "noise" be a female voice, etc); anywhere that lacks those features, isn't really "home."

Then there is a further subset of men who simply feel that they HAVE to have a woman/female around -- both in one sense to "sMother" and make decisions for them, even control them (perhaps order them about, whine & complain, nag, etc), and in the opposite sense for them to "serve" (i.e. to be a "good boy" for, aka "Mommy's little helper" etc; sometimes {especially if/when mom was single-mom or divorced-mom} this is manifests as a Wife-Mom/Sons-band thing; household "pseudo-spousal-role-incest") -- and "sex" may or may not even be part of what they care about, nor indeed does the women necessarily need to actually live with this type (a "bitchy/bossy" girlfriend that lives elsewhere may suffice).

Keep in mind that a LOT of the above is for the most part probably "subconscious" -- some men will only be minimally aware of their "need" for such -- and it seems to be relatively rare for there to be anything more than a minimal "conscious" awareness on the part of the guy in question.

But is that "love"? Do they actually love being "married." Guess that depends on how you define the word "love."

I do know that in the overwhelming majority of such cases (seen this countless times personally), if for some reason she divorces him (or between them they have created some "intolerable" situation -- cheating or otherwise -- that he divorces her)... such men will invariably find another woman, and will likely remarry within fairly short order (IIRC the statistic is 2/3 of divorced men remarry within 5 years -- usually with a major depressive and even a brief "I'm done with women" period in between -- oh and it's likely that most of the remaining 1/3... just take a bit more than 5 years {for whatever reason} but they too are likely to acquire another "spouse" {though they may simply cohabit/shack up and not formally/legally "marry" -- same diff}).

Personally I think it is LESS that such men truly love being "married"... than it is that they find living alone & spouse-less (in an empty, silent "home") as simply "intolerable." ERGO they're not really doing what they LOVE, they're running away from/avoiding what they cannot stand, what they "fear" (living alone, living in silence, etc).

And that isn't just "out there" speculation on my part -- they often reveal such "thinking" all on their own when they ask me (bachelor/MGTOW) questions like: "How can you STAND living alone? Doesn't the silence get to you?" Or just as often NOT even spoken as a real or rhetorical question, but rather simple as a statement of their OWN inability, to wit: "I just don't GET how you can live like you do... I would NEVER be able to endure NOT having someone else around [to talk to/do things with/help/whatever]." (And keep in mind these are often guys who's wives are "seldom at home" etc -- women who DON'T cook or clean or really even care for them, and there are hints it's even "dead bedroom" territory; so it's not even the fact or reality of them having/not having someone around, it's more the mental/psychological concept idea or residual image of themselves as being a "part of a couple" versus being "alone").

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People are brainwashed in thinking marriage and kids = what you are supposed to do / success. All I see is working until 65. Nagging wife, men losing their balls ( having to always get wifes approval for every decision) and alcoholism. And them repeating the words"happy wife happy life"

Already watching the world burn.