[Serious] Women who wear cleavage-revealing clothing: do you expect guys will look, and are fine with It, or are you expecting guys to not look?
Posted Aug 16, 2018, 9:47 PM UTC
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I don't care if anyone looks and frankly I've never thought about it, I would prefer for my shirt not to choke me and be loose
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Fair enough. Thanks for your reply!
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Would you find that ruder than drifting to another body part such as your arm tattoo or something?
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Depending on how low cut the top is I guess. There's cleavage to make us feel good In what we r wearing, then there's "look at me " cleavage. Everybody is going to look regardless. Good or bad
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Where is that line drawn for you personally?
I just saw a woman who had 40 percent of her breasts exposed, and pushed up as well. It made me wonder if she was trying to get people to look or not.
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Well, as a large chested woman myself, Ive always hated heaps of cleavage on myself. I don't think it's flattering at all. I like a normal sitting bust with a flattering neckline.. like instead of the deep V.., a round cut. But remember, we still like to feel good about ourselves. some a little more than others. Lol. It's human nature to Wana look good I guess. But not all are flattering.
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I anticipate looks, but stares are unwelcome.
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When do you feel a stare has started?
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Anything over a second
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I'm so used to people running away from me, I'd be surprised if they weren't staring in disgust.
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I'd see it as a compliment if I caught them looking, but if they keep staring and don't look away when they're caught, I'd find it a bit creepy.
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Don't know, don't care
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Of course people are going to look.
But there is also a difference between looking and being obnoxious.
Where do you draw that line? Like if you catch a guy looking, make eye contact and he goes back to looking at your cleavage?
That would depend on the context. Is this in the workplace? In line at the grocery store? Is he a stranger or someone I know?
Supposing a stranger somewhere random it wouldn't bother me were I dressed in a way that basically invited looking. In general I have more respect for men who are open and unashamed about it than those who are furtive but then there's the consideration aspect because there is such a thing as leering and that makes a lot of women uncomfortable. Guys who are too open about it - well, that's obnoxious.
That's interesting that you have more respect for people who are open about looking - I think a lot of guys would like to look but don't want to get caught looking for some reason.
Myself included.
I feel like a woman could say that she didn't wear that for me (or guys in general) and therefore we shouldn't be looking any more than we would at any other of her body parts. But then again, why would that part be bared if not to draw looks.
I may or may not be atypical in my attitude - I don't know. And I don't feel the same way when people ogle when I'm not wearing deliberately revealing clothing.
The other thing, though, is as I said, the consideration aspect.
I think men have two reasons to avoid being caught looking. One is to be considerate toward people who don't want to be leered at - that's a good reason.
And the other is more personal and, well, cowardly for lack of a better word. That's what I think when I catch a guy looking and his eyes skip away, sorry to say.
I've heard noises like that too but I've nevr understood the point of making them!
Nobody can tell you, not even the woman. If you're a guy that they don't mind looking (attractive) your line is a lot further than it is for the guys they don't want looking (creepy, ugly, too old, any subjective measure). It even varies from day to day.
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Good point.