Recommendations for extra firm mattress with soft 2-3” top layer

My SO has some back/shoulder problems and our current bed is both too soft for him overall and now wearing out to the point we both fall toward the center of the bed while we sleep. He’s sleeping on the floor a couple nights a week at this point to help his back, so I think it’s past time we got a new mattress.

The main issue issue is that while he needs something super firm, I have large hips and breasts that make mattresses without some give impossible for me to sleep on (my spine is always in some curved position otherwise), which is what led to us getting rid of his old board-like mattress.

We just started looking and I dragged him to an Original Mattress Factory location to lie on some beds, and their Orthopedic Adjustable and Orthopedic Luxury Firm seem to be along the lines of the type of “squish to a brick” effect I think will work for both of us.

Are there any suggestions here of other beds to consider or test out? I’d prefer to buy brick and mortar, to test things out and support local businesses and all that. I prefer spring mattresses, he prefers foam, just cause that’s what we’re both used to, so we’ll consider either or hybrid designs.

Posted Aug 23, 2018, 5:21 PM UTC

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yaarra•

If you have room for a king I'd recommend a split king for sure, so you can each choose the style you like most. You can also simply fit two twin xl's in a single king frame.

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FalloutTubesOP•

Our house is teeny and with a queen our bedroom is already just the bed with a narrow walkway around either side of it, we could fit a king if we gave up each having a nightstand on our side of the bed and pushed it into a corner but we’re trying to avoid that because we have different wake up tunes.

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tyinsf•

Have you tried a Sleep Number? It's designed for people with different needs like you two. I'm getting rid of mine after 7 years and getting something else. I can't stand it now (it feels like an air mattress) but I did really like it at first.

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FalloutTubesOP•

Those are near the top of our price range but could be a good option, thanks!

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tyinsf•

You can save some money by getting the base model then adding a topper. All their beds have the same airbags and structural elements. The only difference is the "comfort layers" on top. It's so cool how you can unzip the bed and see its structure. Mine comes with a flimsy 1 or 2" eggcrate foam layer with a 2" memory foam layer on top of that.

I considered keeping the base layers and just replacing the crumbling 2" memory foam on mine. It would pretty much give me a new bed for the price of a topper. But I'm tired of the airbed effect - I want to lie on a soft slab, not a balloon. But like I said, I loved it for a while.

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