I'm having some trouble atm with tindergame, I find it really hard to escalate the conversation from funny to sexual without sounding like a desparate pervert. Any experiences or tips are welcome!
Posted Oct 4, 2018, 2:05 PM UTC
It's Tinder, women know that most people are on their for hookups, and guess what, they are still on there. Just open with a physical compliment, but then ask them about something else in their profile. Invite them out for a drink after some messaging. Assume attraction and escalate.
I've been on dates where there has been very little flirting or touching. Not that I didn't try, but if that's not her thing I don't push. After the second drink, give her the option of going to another bar or coming to your place and 'maybe make out.' If they go for the latter than they're usually up for more than just making out..
Whoa wait do you actually say “We could go to my place and maybe make out.” to her?
Yes. In a jokey way with a smile. They always say yes.
There's a reason women get frustrated with men on tinder being creepy. Way too many open with blunt sexual messages and it just doesn't work unless. Get ahead of all these guys by sending something clever, witty, thoughtful, funny, and try to set up a date in person. That's where you succeed.
Inject something like making out bro, it’s subtle but suggests you want the cooter
Insinuate and be subtle, mention something that's sexual but not directly and in a funny way, but do it after you've established a fair amount of rapport. Like something like skinny dipping - it's mentioning nudity but it's not sex. Or make some kind of inneundo (If I went rock climbing, the rocks wouldn't be the only thing that'd be hard!)
Yeah.
Just don't.
Sexting on tinder without you having met doesn't do anything for you.
She doesn't know you.
This communicates to a woman you only want sex. And women don't like that as a starting point of their interaction with someone.
Most of them are ok with having a casual sexual relationship. But won't be upfront about it.
Just meet up after 50 messages max. You don't need to sext on tinder.
Yeah I figured it's because of talking about sex is weird if you haven't fucked yet
Right. Well sexting.
Women who don't know you will not get all horny of a conversation and some pictures.
Also they are more careful.
Why would you want that anyway?
I want to know what they like in sex because I like it rough and some don't, so I don't want to waste my time on them.
....ok
Yeah dude they are not going to tell you.
Go this route and scare 90 percent of.
If I may ask. What do you want out of tinder?
You sound like you have a abundance of women.
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50 is a lot imo. Just be normal
I said at max 50.
It just means have a small conversation.
Make a joke. Let her know you are not a weirdo. Build a little rapport.
If you don't do that you get a lot more flakes just because women get anxious.
I usually do 20 messages on tinder ask for her number than another 20 on another app.
If she texts before the date. I repond but keep the conversations short. A lot of times women who want to.already talk are excited and already are fantasizing about you.
Other times they are anxious and just want a little bit more rapport.
But I decline interview questions or deal breaker questions. I tactfully hint that we will get to know each other at the date.
If they insist to bad. I am not going to play 20 questions for her checklist. Because I will probably lose and feel bad after.
I have found out that about 20 and than another 20 is the best amount. Do less you get women cancelling on you. Do more and you don't leave enough mystery and it takes to much time.