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Dear Reddit: I feel like I need to grow up

I'm unemployed, spending about 3-4 hours a day looking for a job. My wife works and we're considering a baby. I spend the evening with her, but otherwise I just watch tv or play old computer games. I also game with my friends online when they're available. I'm starting to feel like that kid that never left his parents basement. Even though I enjoy playing games, I'm starting to feel like I really need to "grow up". Some of it, I know, is just self confidence issues because I'm unemployed. But I do feel (approaching 30) like I need to make some changes.

Gimme some recommendations! What should I do with my free time? What should I see, learn, read? What important steps to becoming an adult have I skipped over?

Posted Oct 16, 2009, 11:36 PM UTC

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traverse•

Get a job. Spend more than '3-4 hours a day' looking for one. Let it become priority #1 until you have something. Then, feel free to be as immature as you want (assuming, of course you are mature enough for your wife).

Growing up is over rated.

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garyp714•

Maybe you were a latch key kid.

Try this: ask your inner voice how old it feels, emotionally. A number will pop into your head. If that number is under 20, you may be associated with what they call 'adult children'.

When I first sought help for my seeming immaturity, I found that latchkey, single parent, kids that both parents worked, were missing some huge emotional lessons usually learned between 8-13.

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