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Dear Reddit: My friends are all giant dicks. I need new friends - suggestions?

I had several good friends then moved away for a few years. Now that I'm back they've all magically transformed into dipshits. Like slight of hand, once decent friends are now prone to ignoring phone calls, listing cleaning up dog shit higher than me, and/or being overall sons of bitches.

So I need to find some new friends. I don't frequent bars or such (as my other post indicates, I tend to play video games). What's a good way to expand my friend circle again? I considered the social boards on craigslist but I figure I'm just a likely to meet a fuckin psycho that wants to turn my cats into slippers. I don't have a kid so I can't whore them out at little league shit to meet other parents. Basically, I have no reason to even go out the front door most days - but it'd be nice to have some fucking friends again. You know.. ones that weren't fuckwads.

Posted Oct 17, 2009, 5:19 AM UTC · edited

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[deleted]•

Your friends changed but you changed too. Do some self-reflection and figure out how you changed and that will tell you what you need in a friend.

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pybu•

I don't have a kid so I can't whore them out at little league shit to meet other parents.

Rent one from Big Brothers Big Sisters?

But really - volunteer somewhere. A local food bank, Habitat for Humanity, etc. You'll meet some nice people, help out your community, and have some fun.

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GoBack2DiggOP•

How would I do that - do I just call them, show up? How's that work? Also, I don't know anything about anything. Can I still help Habitat for Humanity without knowledge of how to hold a hammer?

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pybu•

Call first to sign up. And they'll love any help they can get. They need people to haul around stuff, paint, etc.

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[deleted]•

http://www.sturdywings.org/

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yortuk•

I agree, someone should volunteer to redesign that awful website.

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RaccoonN•

Look for gaming lans or conventions to find other people with the same interest as you.

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GoBack2DiggOP•

Where do I look for these things? If it doesn't come on reddit or to my mailbox, I don't know how to find it yet.

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RaccoonN•

That is the hard part they seem hard to find the ones I know of I heard about through friends but im sure enough googling you can find one in your area. Where are you from I may know of some in your area.

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GoBack2DiggOP•

Salem, OR. Not far from Portland/Eugene

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RaccoonN•

I know California has alot of Lans its to far for me to want to travel so I never put any attention to them once I heard of em, but I found this list! no idea on how up to date, but just google around you should find one for your specific taste.

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[deleted]•

Holy fuck, reading through this thread you need to be handheld through every-fucking-thing! I wonder why your 'friends' would rather clean up dogshit then hang out with you.

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GoBack2DiggOP•

Hey, fuck you, you fat fuck. Asking someone that KNOWS is the fastest and easiest way to figure it out. If someone on reddit knows how to get the lowdown on LAN conventions and shit, why the fuck SHOULDN'T I ask them you fat fucking fuck?

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[deleted]•

haha!

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UpTheDown•

You could try developing hobbies or interests that get you out of the house. A friend of mine got into latin dance and he's got women dripping off him now.

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GoBack2DiggOP•

Yeah, that's a good suggestion. I'd need a hobby that was cheap as shit, though. I'm talking almost free here. I also don't need women. I need fucking friends.

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movzx•

Women make great fucking friends.

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playeren•

Make friends fucking great women.

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[deleted]•

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[deleted]•

Any reddit meetups going on in your area?

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[deleted]•

I had to find a whole new set of friends before too, and it was difficult finding them to start with. My best friend I have now I met in a coffee shop. He was using a really nicely skinned laptop, and I asked him about it, and we ended up talking gadgets and other tech related stuff for awhile... and then we became friends. What I'm saying basically is just be nice and compliment people on stuff they have or are doing that interest you, and sooner or later in between several one time conversations you'll start finding friends with the same interests as you.

You could also browse Facebook, and Myspace for people near you that have the same interests as you.

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pearsNpeas•

I don't know you, but you need to be careful of what's called the "common denominator syndrome."

Hope things get better for you.

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GoBack2DiggOP•

You're referring to me having a one-track-mind? That's what google brought up. That my only interest is gaming? Yeah, I think that's probably a fair critique. But I just don't find all that much else interesting. I like cats and gaming. And cats just don't seem like a good foundation for friendships. Just not sure how to expand my interests when I have no spending money.

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pearsNpeas•

Actually, by common denominator I mean that if there's a problem with all your friends, then that makes you the common denominator. In a car engine, if several parts are all experiencing problems, the thing to do is find the common denominator with all of them and fix THAT. The parts themselves are often not the problem. Does that make sense?

Again, I don't know you, so don't take it personally, I've just gone through this myself. I went through a phase where I was irritated with a lot of people; turns out I was just very irritable for some reason - won't go into why, but I fixed it.

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ub3rm3nsch•

Depends on what you're into, but one suggestion I have is meetup.com

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[deleted]•

I've made three very close friends just by talking to strangers who aren't already engaged in something else. This is in places like the park and the cafeteria (disclosure: I'm in college, where people are friendly). The more people you talk to, the more likely it is that you will meet someone you like.

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Cavorticus•

join a group or two that has something to do with something you like. I started to do extra work and did a few movies. I met some fun people and the woman I later married.

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monolithdigital•

well, is it because they've moved on and accomplished something or that you have? If the former, may I suggest getting off the couch and accomplishing … anything? If the latter, man up and don't worry about it

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NeuroticNut•

You have the internet.

What more could you want?

But seriously, make friends with coworkers. Just try a bar. Read a book in a coffee shop/cafe. Interesting shit usually happens when I go in these types of joints. Like, even today.

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jeslaine•

depending on the city you live in (because this site works better in some cities than others) try meetup.com. It's not a dating site. And you can join and just look at the events available (and the people going to them) before joining any particular group.

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macrumpton•

Get involved in things you are interested in. Join a meetup in your area for politics or sports or skydiving, it does not matter so long as you are sincerely interested you have a good chance of having something in common with other attendees, far more than the random assortment in bars.

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YodaSpeaks•

Young Jedi, the time has come to sheath your light saber. Know what Yoda means you do.

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hoyfkd•

Go find some asian friends if your friends giant dicks are causing you pain.

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noneother•

Why does it necessarily have to be Asian? What are you trying to imply?

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rinnip•

That Asians are not big dicks.

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[deleted]•

lol

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