This might seriously be the longest OP I've ever read. Copying this before it's gone as the OP sounds ready to flounce, she gets miffed when people tell her they can't read it all:

I am 23F and I’ve been in my boyfriend’s (28M) and his child’s (SS8) life for less than a year. When I walked into their lives, their world was so corrupted. I started off as friends with my BF and eventually we decided to date recently. He was and still is in a process of divorce. His STBX (24F) was caught cheating —again—around end of 2017 with the same guy. They were married since 2013/2014? Apparently they, her and her bf (22M) been together since 2014/2015. I don’t know nor care for her mistakes/actions.

Before I came around as their world were in term oil. He was separated from his ex since December 2017 and she was losing her mind. Claiming that she will change, she never loved the dude, she wants to save the marriage. She tried to commit suicide or pretended according to her. (She pretended to OD on prescription medication) She did the whole 9 yards. During this time, the child was pawned off to my BF’s mother or neighbor. Both parents were so wrong for that, because they didn’t put the child first.

When I stepped in as a friend, I advised him to be there for his son because it is not his fault. Also, it is not fair for the child to suffer and recall his childhood in the future as shitty... he changed his mindset and started to care. It took a good 2 months for him to get the hang of being a father father. This was around March/April. The EX was constantly going out every day to weekend. She would come home so wasted with a mysterious car over and over. She would drive home drunk with the car completely wrecked (bent rims, dented front and back bumpers and flat tires). She had always been a party girl, but never wasted and ruining the car to this extent. Anyways, she started to noticed how much my BF started to be there for the child and he would give her the cold shoulder. She became very petty! She took the child everywhere she went and not return until like 11 pm to 1 am on school nights. Even disappears on weekends.

Then she caught wind of me and immediately stalked my FB and IG. She started to harassed my BF about me. BF finally start thinking about filing for divorce because he was financially able to afford it. Whatever excuse he wishes to claim. I was a friend then. She at first agreed, but after speaking to her mother... She changed her mind and wanted all assets and full custody of child with him having visitation only. Because according to her, my BF wasn’t a suitable father and husband. Labeling him as, “verbally abusive” and “mistreatments to child”. They both hired two very expensive super lawyers. LOL! Their wallets are on fire!

She started to verbally attack BF in front of the child. The kid was very quiet and barely talks... maybe to his parents for food or games on their phones. She tried her best to tell SS to say things she wants him to say. They have a house together that my BF and his mom paid for but it is under the BF and Ex’s names. My BF’s family lives there (little brother, mother, grandma and grandpa also lives there). The little brother was very annoyed with the way the EX treated and acted towards the BF so he would come out and records their interactions. She would stop and disappear, dragging the child. Apparently the child makes a fuss about wanting to be with his father and eventually she storms off leaving the kid behind. It was pretty dumb to me for her to use the child as leverage.

I was popping up a lot with the BF and the SS around May/June. SS was very shy but he told me that his mom is making him stay away from me. Which, to me is understandable but hurtful at the same time. I told him, “Sweetie, if I make you feel unsafe or you not happy with me around. I totally understand and I won’t approach you so suddenly, but you’re 7 now. You can decide who are genuinely nice to you and who aren’t. So do you want me to leave?” He teared up and would shake his head no. If you’re wondering if this causes drama with the BM. Oh yes! She was so mad but couldn’t do anything about it. During this time she was caught with the same BF again and of course. She can’t play victim anymore that she is somehow innocent in all of this.

End of June, my family invited my BF and his child to join us on a Family vacation with our family friends’ families. We rented a beach house to share and it was very fun. For a whole week, we all cooked at home and go to the beach. Go jet-skiing, played on these huge floats, and parasailing. The bond between my SS and I grew so much. He had conversations with me. He laughs and played with me and other children there. I cook food for him. We go swimming in the beach. He always want to jump waves because it’s funny to have the wave push him against the shore. Built sandcastles and destroying them. My BF finally decided to make it official for us, even though he was going through a divorce.

We came back and suddenly my SS went silent again. Not laughing, joking, nor dancing anymore with me. He starts to disappear with his mother again. My BF and I would only see him once a week if we were able to catch him in time before the mother sneaks out the house with the kid again. This was July.

The SS eventually starts to open up with his grandma and uncle that he been at his mom’s boyfriend’s place. Apparently the boyfriend has a little brother (9M) that SS plays with. Saying his mom and boyfriend drinks these glass bottles a lot thats brown and blue.lI’m assuming beer and Hypnotiq. That he remembered this guy from a couple years ago. So I am assuming she disappeared like this before with the child to her BF’s house. Btw, His mom is always on her phone. With her boyfriend, she is using her phone. At home, she is on the phone talking to texting someone for hours. Her boyfriend tend to blow up her phone as well. Clingy kid (her BF). Apparently she was talking to two different guys according to the SS. Eh.

The EX started to do some paperwork with the lawyer to press some sort of charges against my BF and me. Because my BF announces our relationship to her around August. She was still, I guess, in love with him. Anyways, she made a mistake late August/September where she had a huge fight with her boyfriend and drove drunk home with the child in the vehicle. Her boyfriend immediately reached out to my BF and enlighten him of what happened. BF and his mom didn’t do a police report on her because they are afraid this could reflect badly on her records and work. She is a daycare teacher. Dumb move. Anyways, she got home 2 hours later and everyone and things were fine. They can tell she was drunk and was sobering up. Recorded her admitting to cheating, drink “a couple beers” and that she was abused by her boyfriend. The child had more to say, “mami was at the pool and was drinking a lot” to “mami was walking funny and fight with ___Her BF’s name __”. Then her boyfriend texted and told the whole story to admitting to their relationship. Dumb move.

Anyways, they moved from one district to another in Fall 2017. They didn’t move school for SS because the BM made a huge deal about letting him finish school and it was hard for him to make friends —wait until next school year... Fall 2018 came and she secretly re-enrolled him into the same school with some fake address I am assuming. She removed my BF’s contact info and his mom and brothers info from emergency contact. She works nearby the SS’s school so I see why she did that also to be petty against my BF and his family. She started to hate his family when she saw them hanging out with me and accepted me. Anyways, she pawned him off in after school program until 6:30 pm. According to SS, he hated it. She would take him and then disappears with her boyfriend until 11 pm every school day.

It was around October that she claims that she will move out ASAP so her son can stay at the same school. Claiming she is doing everything for her son. State again that my BF was an incapable father. To my BF’s defense, he cannot help his son with homework or lecture him because his EX would take him home super late and would undermine him when he does lecture the child. Her defense is she is protecting her son, because a mother’s instincts are strong. Fair enough, if the way he lectures was unreasonable. Anyways, my BF told his attorney about what was happening from her manipulative ways, boyfriend, drinking, taking child home late every day/night and address fraud with school. Attorney advised him to immediately move the child to the correct district and school because it is illegal. I didn’t know it was that severe. He did that and his EX flipped balls! She kept all original paperwork for everything (even though she doesn’t pay the bills or anything) and refused to provide any info regarding the child. Luckily for my BF, he have copies of everything and it came in handy for the new school. Apparently, SS old school, the child was making C’s and D’s, he in bilingual classes, and is under special ed classes for destructive behavior.

It was alarming that this super shy child was in Special Ed for destructive behavior. I am assuming his mom didn’t know what that means or hid all info regarding the child from him. She isn’t very literate. Anyways, moved the kid and he absolutely loves it at the new school. Made friends in comparison from his old school where he didn’t have any friends. He did have friends in regular classes before his mom switched him to bilingual. But hey! She knows best. Mother knows best! His grades are soaring. I am actually in charge of his homework and teachings, which she isn’t too happy about. He is more talkative again. Plays with me and his family. More respectful and understanding. He is a kid again!

Again, she comes home and immediately takes the kid and disappear. She notices his homework are getting worked on and just toss a tantrum about it to my BF. This was the first week of transition to a new school. First day I helped, rest of the week I let her do it. To my honest surprise, she did it using plagiarism on his homework and SS flunk his spelling test. Talk about disappointment. So much for, “I did his homework with him his whole life!!” I honestly was upset. I was a former babysitter/tutor, so this honestly triggered me. I took over since then. I lectured him from right to wrong, help with reading, homework, math, and create a fun game to study his spelling test. His grade changes, though some things need some work on like his reading and writing. Understandable because he was in a bilingual class. Overall, he is changing in a better way. Three weeks ago, I assume her long time boyfriend were going through some issues. She weren’t taking the kid out at all. He was so curious as to why. According to SS and his grandma, she rushed the kid home at 11 pm (school night) after spending a couple hours with her boyfriend and told my BF’s mom that she has to go somewhere and the child has not ate all day since he got out of school. LOL. Acting like someone died. She went on a date with a new guy till 2 am. BTW, according to her boyfriend and my BF’s family. She only feeds him when it is convenient to her. The child doesn’t have a set schedule for food. Which is weird for me. Then that weekend she slept over with her boyfriend’s place with SS. The next week, I was helping my SS with the usual studies with my BF working from home until 8 pm. I usually leave before the BM comes home. She came home and immediately leaves. No explanation. Doesn’t notify anyone that the child will be alone in the room. She left. She got picked up by her new guy, when reviewed the cameras. Of course. Next day, she went to go eat with SS and her boyfriend and his little brother. She came back and again. She sneak off without letting anyone know about the kid. I was over that day so I was in shock the rumors were true. Either way, the child did his homework, ate and is having fun with his dad and I. I don’t care for her since it doesn’t involve the child. She isn’t around to brain wash him about my BF and I. She isn’t able to ruin his education. He is having proper meals at appropriate time. I am fine with this.

So a week ago, because her plan to be primary or receiving full custody of the child fell through because her lawyer enlightened my BF’s that she cannot afford to go to court since she stopped paying for him and the safety deposit is running low. She wants to settle at the same time looking at the discovery case my BF’s provided —it looks like she cannot win anyways (personal opinion by them wanting to settle). My BF’s Attorney recently dropped a discovery case against her last week so it was also a reason for this huge fight that occurred. My BF want to do 50/50 custody of the child with him having sole rights. Basically, he has the say as to where the child gets to live and attend school. Also he wants to hold onto the paperwork regarding the child. She was absolutely against this. He stated that, if she ever needed something that he would hand it over as long she returns it at an appropriate time. She denies this immediately. She then bargains with him using money. He agreed then she got greedy wanted an additional alimony help that won’t be on contract. States that she makes insufficient income. LOL. He declines and say it is either or. He technically does not have to help her, because his mom feels like she might struggle to make it on her own —he changed it a little. She was not happy with the response. She then start a HUGE ARGUMENT with the whole family involved. Stating that my BF is taking away her son. That he is selfish and it isn’t right. That she is the mother and she has more rights to her son and the court will agree with her. She continues that his relationship with me is illegal and she has videos of him doing illegal things. I am guessing posting racing videos on IG.

She became irrational. Started to cry and holding the child as she screams at everyone. My BF asked her to go away so he could help the kid with homework. She hold onto her son and continued to scream. My SS broke free from her and tried to get away from the drama. Playing victim, she started to wale even more. I was coming over to finish my lecture with the child’s homework when I overheard the argument from the outside. I was so hesitant to come in, but his family welcomed me. I saw her, her eyeliner running all over her face. I pitied her. She glared at me and I just walked into the restroom to grabbed a box of tissue for her. I asked why is she crying like this and the family just says she is being overdramatic again. I handed her the box and she said thank you.

Did I mention this girl was the one who badmouths my name and started so much drama with my BF about it? Blaming me for their marriage not being fixable. Stating that I tried to get rid of her. Hating me. She requested to speak to me... I honestly was hesitant, one because she is unpredictable and two she is a compulsive liar. I agreed and we went outside to talk. Advising my BF to help the child with homework and spelling before heading outside. He did that as I was talking to her. She started off playing victim... saying my BF is taking full custody of the child and that she is feeling unfair for it. Then continues to she has been taking care of the child since he was born and my BF never cared. Why does he cared suddenly? Blah blah blah. How he mistreated the child. I stopped her with, “I am not interested on how he was but how he is now.” She stopped and changed her tone to, “I am happy he changed for my son”. Then it diverted to her life as a young mother at 15/16 to her family. She talked about her relationship of 3 years to having a new boyfriend now. Whom she is apparently in love. He is her co-worker. Her long time boyfriend was also her co-worker when she worked somewhere else. Funny. I honestly zoned out from there. I just retraced her back to her son and how she has to think about her son first. I assure her that she will always be SS’s biological mother and my BF will always be the biological father. No one can change that. I enlightened her on how her son’s life improved so much now that he changed school. How he talks to everyone who he use to ignore (adults who are friends with the parents). Many years he ignore them but now he talks to them and tell them stories. I told her all of this! That end of the day, the child must go first from now on. And they must co-parent. She stopped and actually thanked me. Her exact words, “I see that. I was honestly jealous of you. I was jealous for my son. Because he talks greatly about you. I see now that it’s a good thing for him to have you in his life. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much.” I was in shocked. I advised her to try to keep the argument minimal and keep the child away from the drama. I also offer her help in the near future with school or anything like that. Then it trails off again to being her life and I kind of find a way to leave. His brother finally came out and talked to her. I left soon after. There’s a lot to this conversation but it’s not involving the child. She just begged me to talk to my BF about fixing her car and custody of child.

Then! This week, after the heartfelt conversation with her. She accused me of cleaning her room. In my defense, I never dare once enter her room anyways because I respect her regardless. I was baffled by the accusations. She confronted my BF in an aggressive behavior and says her son told her this. That if I (that girl) dare enter her room again, she will call the cops on me. Can I get arrested for that? I didn’t go in but I am curious as to can I be. Anyways, she later recorded the child’s answer/response after she had her fun spazzing out to my BF. I was coming home from running errands and didn’t caught the news until I was near. I messaged her on IG and tried to clear the misunderstanding. I explained that this must be a misunderstanding. She was so stubborn and stated that it was not what her son says. Blah blah blah. I told her to come out and let’s talk it out because it is not healthy to act like this. She refuses.

Until she overheard my conversation with my BF about why she came up with this conclusion. Apparently my BF vacuum the room because the SS was sick and sneezing so much. Also he fixed the bed because the screws were lose for awhile and the BM didn’t fix it. (Everything in that room are broken, ruined, burnt, and/or won’t turn on) So! He did tell her that a couple days ago when he did fix the bed and vacuum but I guess she forgot or her anger blinded her. She stormed out the room and ask to speak to me outside... Again. I agreed and asked if she is calm and okay to talk. She said yes and explained herself. Showed me the video of the child saying his dad and I cleaned the room. I then explained and reasoned with her that why in the world would I clean her room... She defended herself saying she will always believe her son because her son never lies...after making her think about it again, she says maybe her son confused the situation. Then I explained that in the future, I hoped she would just talked it out and ask us if it was true. It is scary to have this trust and friendship for the sake of the child, to be ruined by a misunderstanding. She agreed to it. She admit that she was wrong for jumping to conclusions with my BF. I advised her to apologize to which she declines. I guess its a pride thing. Anyways that ended.

I still be nice when I run into her. Wave and say how are you. I’m not a mean person, I hope to be a reasonable and understanding person. I’m trying to set an example for my SS to see. I do see myself eventually married to BF one day and he is hinting it. Even if we don’t work out in the future, I want to ensure my SS has a memorable childhood that is positive.

But the most recent one was a couple days ago. She kept begging to bring her new boyfriend over and requested that my BF should co-parent and get along with her new BF and they should be friends. My BF said no and she was so furious. She ask why and why not like a teenager. My BF stated that the relationship started literally a week ago and why must he let someone new in the house he paid for. She state that she loves him. (Hint hint: she cheated on her husband (my BF) of 4/5 years with her BF of 3.5 years with her new BF that we know of now for 5 months) Words slip around. She then threatened that she knows he been dating me since December. LOL!!! Jokes on her, I was dating someone at the time and I wasn’t even in Texas. I didn’t know of my BF till Spring time. My BF laughed at her statement. Then she continued to, “my whole family coming to Texas from Bolivia for Christmas!” Then accused him for hiding her green cards. The whole 9 yards. All this conversation occurred where the child slept on the couch next to the father. My BF was working from home and his son likes to play near him and sleep near him. So again... She argued in front of the child. My BF just told her to go away and stopped. He explained again that if she wants to learn how to do the child’s homework. He can show her. From now on, he doesn’t care for the drama with her. She mocked him that why does he care for the child all of a sudden. Mocking him saying, “oh you’re such a good father! Good father!” Soon she walked away and one hour later she decided to listen and help with the child’s homework. I guess a phone call with her boyfriend got her to her senses.

Now, I am still helping the child with homework and everything he needs. I provide as much as I can for him. I do lecture him. According to his mom, she cannot ever get him to listen to her ever. She was surprised how my tactics works with him. He listens to his dad immediately though. I am slowly giving both parents more responsibility with feeding and homework responsibilities now. I show my BF how to do certain homework. His BM English aren’t great, so I try to help her understand better on how to do the child’s homework. I end up critiquing and looking over his homework anyways. I told them that I am not interested on their drama. I only care for the child and my BF alone. Just don’t involve me with their drama and divorce. I am sure she will pop up with some drama with the divorce involving me later. 🥴

Anyways, the child is doing great. He has friends, doing good in school, having fun, has a great relationship with me, voices his concern, eats and willing to be adventurous with his father and I. Hey, we have some awesome dance moves we created together.

I pray for this divorce to be over soon and that she moves out. I hope my SS is having a good childhood from here on out.

What do yall predict on what’s going to happen next? This is like a telenovela.