Wife on vacation with bf

We've done a few of these so far, some much more judgemental in responses than others but they're fun. We're a mid-30's MWC, kids, jobs etc and have had an open relationship with several guys over the years but predominately with my long time best friend J. She's spent quite a bit of 1-on-1 alone time with him including visiting him for a few days and even been his date to several destination weddings (2 nights max).

Well, the wife and I booked a six-night five-day vacation at a well known and popular swingers resort in the Caribbean that we should be at right now (Mon-Sun). However, the shot storm of life collided. Work changed a slew of stuff on me and our family cancelled last minute on watching the kids.

Thank God, J to the rescue to take my place! This is by far a stretch for me and us but it's a healthy exercise in boundry exploration. Go ahead and AMA...