AITA for telling my husband he needs to box up his deceased wife’s stuff so we can move into their old bedroom?

I met my husband about 10 months ago at grief counseling. I was there because of a late term miscarriage and he was grieving his wife who had just passed away in a car wreck. (Sorry if this is too heavy for some people, by the way. We’re both doing super well now).

I was obviously very sympathetic to the situation and never expected us to become more than friends. But we ended up connecting and got married within months of knowing each other, which I don’t regret at all. I also now have a 6-year-old stepdaughter who’s been incredibly sweet to me, given the circumstances.

When we first got engaged I sold my condo and moved into my husband’s house to live with him and my stepdaughter. It’s a gorgeous, spacious home and I love it.

The problem is that my husband still is keeping the master bedroom exactly as it was when his wife was alive. All of her clothes, jewelry, makeup, etc. —just like it was the day she died. This is what my stepdaughter tells me. I’ve never actually been in the room because my husband generally keeps it locked and has made it somewhat obvious he doesn’t want me to go in there.

So we currently sleep in one of the guest bedrooms. It’s comfortable enough but I’m starting to get tired of this situation. At first I was tolerant. I know our relationship moved quickly and everyone had to make some adjustments. But it’s now been almost a year and he’s still done nothing.

I got so angry yesterday that I called the room a shrine (which he didn’t like at all) and said I might leave if he didn’t finally box up her things. I didn’t actually intend to follow through with that. I was just upset and hurt and wanted him to understand how important this is to me.

Whenever I bring this up he rationalizes and says he’s keeping the room that way for his daughter. But I honestly think it’s for him. I’m sure my stepdaughter loved her mother very much but I don’t think she’ll be particularly traumatized if the house no longer looks exactly like it did before. Besides, she is only allowed in the room when he decides to unlock it for her, which isn’t all that often.

He also said he doesn’t see what difference it makes to me because the guest room is basically a second master. But that really isn’t the point!

I mean, am I being too insensitive? Demanding? I have pretty thick skin so feel free to give me the cold, honest truth if you wish.