I m wondering if my [24F] bestfriend is in an abusive relationship with her [25F] girlfriend. Also she’s getting pressure to give her dog away.

Hello

First of all : English is not my language so I would like to apologize if my writing sucks.

I’ve been best friend with a french girl for about five years, when I met her she was in relationship with a guy who had no respect for her at all (cheating, texting other girls…). It took her the longest time to leave his sorry ass but she did and then she jumped back in an other sucky relationship with a girl (they adopted a dog together – cute fluffy corgi). They end up breaking up things and my bestie kept the dog. The main problem of my bf is that she jumps into relations and puts everything in it even tho she’s not sure it’s gonna work or if it’s a good match.

She met a girl online (a corgi group) but the girl was living eight hours away but that didn’t stopped my bestie who tought it was a good idea to leave her life and family (after four months of relation) to move with her and her 2 dogs. (SO – they end up with three dogs.) The problems started : a lot of talks about money (cuz she was waiting for a job since she had to move to an other city), blaming for not cleaning the house while her gf was working (she didn’t felt like she could snoop around and move things around so she was unconfortable) and the dogs didn’t get along, they fought and it was kinda awful but they said they will contact a specialist for a dog behavior therapy (for my best friend dog).

I decide to check on her and I came to France to see her and where she was living and trust me it was really weird and awkward : her girlfriend kept making snarky comment about money and food and I was in the middle hoping I could disapear into the couch. When I was there they told me that the situation was better with the dogs and I was really happy for them cause I had the feeling that the girlfriend didn’t like my bf dog much.

Today she came to me and a friend on discord telling us that she had made the decision to give her dog away, telling me that the situation was way worth and that they could’nt do anything about it. She seems heartbroken, talking about a corgi association that could relocate her dog and find him a family with no other dog or kid. She explained to me that her dog bit her girlfriend’s dog and a also a human – that was the first time that i heard about it so I was shocked. While I was reading everything she was saying I had a weird feeling : I wasn’t sure she was the one writing (I know how she writes and it was way too weird) and I felt like it was her girlfriend holding once again the strings. I feel like I can’t say anything to her about her girlfriend or I risk losing her in the process. She’s in love that’s for sure but I m not sure that her girlfriend has her best interests at heart. I fear she will regret it and I feel like they could do more for the dog, that she’s pressured into giving her dog away… I don’t know what I can and cannot tell her so I come to you for advices.

TLDR – I don’t know if my best friend is in a good relationship and if she should accept giving her dog away and what I can(‘t) tell her.