Venting on surgery, life and feeling broken.

Well hubs surgery went really well. Hes in alot less pain then anticipated. Hes frustrated at being stuck on the couch and it's only been 4 days. What I don't get is if he doesn't want to feel burdensome why the fuck won't he fold the 6 loads of laundry sitting in baskets next to the couch (especially because he was up till 3 am watching tv)? Doesn't even need to get up, and I've been waiting on him hand and foot, on top of my regular shit. I get it, I really do but he could have helped more before the surgery, but nope, it's only me. I'm the only one who does pretty much anything around the house. No help, no support. He hasn't been home longer than a rare 3 day weekend in years and wants to be "kept up to speed" on things so he can help with the kids. Sorry I'm used to doing it all myself, and no you haven't been around. Is seeing the toddler having a bad day today and is asking me to take him out. There's no way in hell I'm taking him out in public in this mood! You think it's hard to deal with at home? He won't cheer up going out- he hates the car seat, he hits people when cranky, and will have almost continuous meltdowns! I know I've tried on other bad days. He just needs to have his bad day. And besides guess what my list of stuff to do looks like today? Catch up on as much laundry as I can, clean the kitchen because our older 2 cant wipe a freaking counter off to save their lives, let alone do anything other than empty the dishwasher. Not even put away the clean, dry dishes next to the sink. Next is to clean the bathroom. After that is the dining room and the catch all our table is. Then maybe after all of that if I have any energy left I'll make the couple of Christmas presents I'm hoping to. I still need to go shopping for the kids stockings because that was what hubs was in charge of and he didnt get it done. I also still need to get my Christmas baking done because I haven't had time or energy to do any of it.

Do I have any help? Hell no. Not one single person has asked how I'm doing in the last 4 days. So the youngest is napping and I'm hauling ass to get as much done as possible so I can supervise the cranky dude. All while my hubs naps on the couch.