Should parents do things like offer personal advice, and try to introduce their children to women if they’re incel and want assistance? Is that going to far for a parent if the child is an adult? Or is it reasonable to ask for help when you’ve exhausted all over options to meet women?
Posted Dec 18, 2018, 1:42 AM UTC
Prevention is the easiest way to help an incel.
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Would loan my parents a 1 1/8th oz shell of cure, since they didn't appear big on the oz of prevention.
If youre ugly then introducing their child to women would still be unsuccessful.
I feel very emotional with this subject. I know by now that in essential THEY are to blame for all that suffering I went through some twenty years after their achieved effort to not coddle their child. I could just cry when thinking about all that 50-es shit doctrine about how to nurture your offspring without spoiling it.
It's no use in explaining it to them now, too old, to much of their own problems, ... but somehow I feel very upset and angry that they probably not even recognized the misery I was in. Sometimes I even wonder, what they would had figured out, if I had voluntarily left this world back then. It's very unlikely that they would had ever recognized a connection to their special kind of "child care". And somehow I would not want them to know and feel guilty, cause I love them all the same. Oh it's all such am God damned shit, and I am glad that no one sees my tears falling down on my desk in the office right now.
So in the end, I don't really know how they could have helped me during my long incel era, but I feel they would have owed it to me.
I think parental or communal matchmaking is a good idea as long as it's voluntary.
Yes. Introducing your kids to your friends' kids is a big one. And that's acceptable at any age. It's no different from your friends setting you up. Before the age of dating apps, that was the main way people met prospective partners.
So if you desperately want experience with women and your parents knew loads of women your age and refused to set you up or even introduce you that’s a dick move?
In my opinion, yes.
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lets be honest here, parents are probably the least useful people for you getting a relationship
Whatever they do it can’t make my dating life any more of a pathetic failure
Not necessarily. If your parents know you well, they might be able to find out which of their friends' kids you'd be compatible with and make you a good match. My boyfriend's parents and my parents were friends for years before we first met, and then they helped hook us up.
Not only do we have a lot in common, but it makes dating easier and less stressful when our families already get along very well. And we were able to enter the relationship already knowing alot about the other thanks to information our parents shared with each other over the years, so no worries that he's secretly married or an ex-con or something, lol.
what if your parents are bad at socialising too?
If they can't help, they can't help.
I'm just saying that parents aren't necessarily the least useful people for matchmaking if they (A) know you well, and (B) have friends with kids around your age.
I know you mean good will because it worked for you but for most people here this will never work
I think sometimes my parents were too hand soff, they never made me do anything social (I was just and don’t play sports until middle school really and all those little league soccer and baseball teams is how I think a lot of kids socialized.) Ultimately what can parents really do? I think we all cring when we think about parents trying to get their kid invited to birthday parties or making them go to social events where they just feel awkward. The reality is that parents are kinda powerless as far as helping you with your peers. I think why they cna do is just be mentors and give advice and be supportive as far as some of the insecurities that lead many of us to inceldom.
Only among humans. Heard it's a bit easier among pan paniscus in this regard.
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All kind of help, true affection and understanding is appreciated, as long as the son is free to accept or thankfully refuse.
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Don't fucking reproduce if you have terrible genetics, monitor the health and development of your child. That should be all that's required
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Troll.
From your and other people's shocked reaction I conclude, that you simply cannot measure or imagine the severity of an incel's suffering.
Sure, incestuous love in most cases really is a bad thing, and I wouldn't recommend it here either. But in the end it isn't lethal, while inceldom can be !
So if you really knew, what it feels like to be rejected by everyone, not having this solace of being accepted corporally by anyone, then you wouldn't deny this very thought so frivolously.
Is this for real?
Obviously yes.
You know, incestuous love is shit, it can be terrible, don't do it. But there is one thing, that can be even worse: inceldom !!! Although you probably can't figure out, it can be lethal.
With this reply I don't want to advocate incest as a remedy against the suffering of an incel. But I can't stand your frivolous statement against the idea, since I perceive it as belittling of the suffering of an incel.
I am an incel.
Ok then. When writing my above comment I was in a rather bad disposition because of another post and looked at your short comment from one point of view only. But there are others. I can understand your comment if such an incest proposition is concretely given to an incel. Before I rather saw it from a distance and from the prospect of a mother who neglected her son. But yes from the prospect of the son it‘s „unreal“ for me either.
What should they do to fix the problem or help their son cope?
Provide them with comprehensive, educational, loving and respectful incestual sex.
Tfw you’re so ugly that the only way you’re ever getting laid is pity sex from your mom.
Lol'd at this sub's members getting pissed at the truth.
Inceldom is not a trendy thing, is it not what we try to convince people? That it's a serious issue that brings us deep mental suffering?
Molding the society to normatize that a mother make sure to dispel an easy-to-end suffering of her son is more realistic than y'all getting laid with strangers. If you're ok with forcing mothers to work for her offspring, feed her offspring, educate her offspring and catering to the needs of her offspring in a way it would be labeled as neglect if she refuses, yet you draw a line on sex... you're just being a prude volcel working hard to keep your own virginity.
I don't understand every thing of this comment e.g:
Inceldom is not a trendy thing, is it not what we try to convince people?
But concluding from the reactions to your suggestions one thing is clear: Most people do not understand the severity of the suffering of incels.
I normally hate it when people make this suggestion, but why not get a prostitute?
Would you rather a servant had been paid to take care of you as an infant instead of being properly cared by a mother?
Your mom pity fucking you for being a loser doesn't count any more than a prostitute fucking you for money.
I really don't think it's relevant, but for what it's worth I spent at least half of time up to six yo with a caretaker. It was great. I'm still friends with someone else that she sometimes watched
Now I'm done arguing with you about this. If you want to fuck your mom go ahead, but that's pretty gross. It's not going to fix anything. You'll still be an ugly loser, just not an ugly Virgin loser.
Different cultures are either hands off or very involved (such in the way of arranged marriage).
I can see the benefits of both ways.
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I don't pretend to be a good person, I am a good person.
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