My ex ex never had a problem she could take me basically all the way and she was fine but my ex and my current girl have a lot of trouble handling me when I’m hard and it’s part of the reason me ex and I are not together and I feel that the same thing is happening again wondering if and positions or something could help avoid this problem 8.25 x 5.75
Posted Jan 15, 2019, 1:25 AM UTC
You could certainly try some positions that limit depth/possible insertion just based on body geometry.
Also could try the thicker spacer rings that will limit depth...penis bumpers or something like that. Like a thick cock ring.
What's worked best in my experience is A) foreplay to build up lubrication and get the vagina to tent as much as possible, B) slow entry/short strokes to start, C) nudge fucking where you insert in a ways (however deep is comfortable for you both) and then just move short strokes while staying inside, D) positions where she is open but not too open.
For instance, regular missionary is the most comfortable for my fiancee to start sex with, that gets her opened up and we apply lube and have a bit of fun to start. I like the feeling when I pin her legs up near her arms, but it puts her cervix right where I can pound on it vs going in front of or behind into the fornix areas (anterior/posterior or A & P spots) and is thus quite uncomfortable for her unless she is just super turned on.
Also, I'm pretty sure her on top is never that great (for her) due to how we fit together, even if she tries staying up and not dropping all the way down onto me. So, we use the positions that work best for her to take me deep: doggy, face down doggy, pronebone, regular missionary, the arch (like missionary but her butt is on a pillow or I'm leaning back a bit and pulling her up onto me).
Communicate, we once had a talk about this sort of thing and agreed to take a day where she wasn't super interested in sex to just go through a bunch of positions and talk about what each feels like as I'm thrusting and angling myself differently and she is moving her hips around/whatever. Highly recommend even if it feels a bit weird being so scientific/cold about it as now I can feel when I'm up in her A spot and know what's going on, and she identified what she likes better as well.
Do porn.
My bf is the same length as you and I find that missionary, me on top, doggie (provided i don't arch down too much) and lying down side by side are some of the positions that are best for him not getting too deep. Obviously missionary and doggie can easily allow for going deeper depending on leg/back positioning.
However, not all women can or want to take 8+ inches, also bare that in mind. She might not want it all in and you'll have to respect that.