I crave sympathy and don't know how to stop
I don't really know what to do. I don't even know if this is the right place to post this or if I should post it at all. I can't admit it to anyone I know, it took me forever just to admit it to myself, but I constantly crave sympathy and attention. I have my problems, but they're not nearly as bad as a lot of others. I don't know why I do, and I fell super embarrassed and guilty about it, but I just want people to listen to me. I have a few really good friends who have been supportive and let me rant to them about things, but I still crave attention. It's not like there's anything wrong with talking to your friends, I just do it far to much and it's terrible. Ifeel like a parasite, and I hate myself for it. I generally care a lot about others and try to make their lives better, and often get anxious if I feel like I'm bothering them, but when it comes to this I'm just so selfish and stupid. I don't know what to do or how to stop. Any suggestions?
Posted Feb 6, 2019, 3:15 AM UTC
This isn't the 1950s, yet you express a 1950s perspective. I'm curious why that is.
What is a 1950s perspective? I'm only 15 and not educated in these things.
Then I apologize. I didn't mean to be rude.
It doesn't make you less equal than other people to have problems. Everyone has problems, and other people just hide them so they'll look good. You may be an open person to whom hiding things isn't natural. Or you may be feeling that your life isn't going the way it should, or have a sensitive nature, or be unsatisfied with different things about your life, or having mood swings because it's goddamned difficult to be 15. I was 15 and remember what it was like for me. You're God compared to the wreck I was back then. So take it easy on yourself. It's up to your friends to complain about how you behave if they have a problem with it. But maybe they understand and are a lot more forgiving of you than you are of yourself. You don't have to be anybody you're not. You CAN'T be anybody you're not. Be who you are because that's the best any of us can do. Hope that helped.
Thanks that actually helped a lot