AITA for getting annoyed with a homeless guy?

Thank you for your gracious act. He was probably getting food for for other homeless people he knew. They usually try to take care of each other. Next time maybe give him a price limit or ask him what he wants ahead of time so you can maybe talk him down on a few things.

NTA. The fact is that you helped some dude who may not have eaten in a while, and may not eat for a while afterward. You're a good person. I won't speculate on his reason for ordering what he did, but you aren't an asshole for being annoyed and feeling taken advantage of.

At the end of the day you still helped someone (and possibly several people) have a meal when they might not get one. Pretty sure that outweighs any potential asshole feelings by a country mile.

NTA - probably not the first time he has pulled this scam.

NTA. I think ultimately it may be understandable if he were truly hungry to abandon all care for your wallet, but there's no reason you wouldn't be upset for him ordering more than a regular meal. By the sounds of it, he ordered way more than even above average.

At least you tried to do something nice!

NTA.

You did way more than most people would.

NTA If you were prepared to pay $10 for a meal but the guy orders $40 worth of food, that's him taking advantage of the situation. I don't knock him but you have every right to be annoyed. What if you didn't have the extra money? You would have felt bad and been made to explain. He put you in a weird position. You're a good guy for feeding him.

NAH. He was probably legitimately hungry and ordered to be fed for several meals. You did get taken advantage of a bit but that doesn't make him an asshole. Don't let this stop you from doing good deeds, just learn to set better boundaries. Some homeless people are so used to fighting for survival that social graces can get a little rusty. Next time give him a few choices (like, my wife is having chicken fingers and I'm having a beef sandwich. Would you like a sandwich or chicken fingers?), and if he tries to order something that's more tell him that your budget is $10 so he needs to change his order.

NAH.

But I couldn't help but feel somewhat like I was being taken advantage of. At the same time, I tried to consider he may be using that order for multiple meals.

It is both of these things.

Normally I'd call the person taking advantage of you the asshole, but I can't realistically blame a homeless person for stocking up on food, even at someone else's expense. Food is kind of important.

NTA You are in no way an asshole in this situation. You have every right to be annoyed. You offered to buy him a meal and he took advantage of that to get as much as he could. At least he said thanks though.

NTA. Thank you for feeding him though. I hope that this doesn't stop you from helping someone in the future. Just set clear money boundaries for the next time.

NTA

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So this happened over the weekend. My wife and I were travelling and we stopped at one of our favorite places to eat.

On our way out I was approached by a homeless individual. He asked me if I could help him as he hadn't eaten in days and likely wouldn't again if I didn't do something.

I told him that while I didn't have any cash, I'd be willing to take him inside and let him order a meal. He accepted and we went inside.

I told the lady behind the counter that I was going to be buying for the gentleman behind me. This is the part that gets dicey: he ordered a fuckton of food. His bill was considerably more than ours was for two. I didn't say anything about it. I paid, he thanked me, and we left. But I couldn't help but feel somewhat like I was being taken advantage of. At the same time, I tried to consider he may be using that order for multiple meals. AITA?

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ESH.

He shouldn’t have been ordering that much food and been taking advantage of. I also think if you volunteered to feed this homeless man and not have said how much you’re comfortable paying, setting a cap, ordering for him, or just accepting that you just gave a homeless man several meals and did a good deed.