Why should I have to work hard and self improve if all I want is to be with the female equivalent of my current self?
Posted Apr 12, 2019, 3:44 PM UTC
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Because your boss wants a new car
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The female equivalent of you has much better options. If you want a woman like that you are going to have to improve. It sucks, I know, but that's just the way the world is.
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She still won't like you... Women despise settling down. That is why divorce rate are skyrocketing and they get careers. Just so that they can prolong the inevitable, since they outnumber Chad by like 5 to 1.
I've been to TrueFemcels, and let me tell you. If one of my guy friends talked about other men in the same way they talk about Chad, and he talked about his wife in the same way they talked about incels... I would tell him to get out of the closet, divorce her, and stop wasting her time.
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Because your SMV match is a 60 year old obese crackhead.
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Funny but sad. Sad but true.
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Because the world is unfair. And as the minority, you can't do anything to change it, because obviously very few others want to change it. Just like how some people have to work hard only to get a mediocre job.
I'm still trying to accept this myself. I'm in no way happy about it either.
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The problem is female fascination with Chad. Most guys are completely happy with a woman equal to them. They simply want a partner to share their life with.
However a woman will always desire Chad, not just for his looks, but primarily the social status she gets from being with him or even just sleeping with him one night. Women are hugely competitive with each other. They tend to care more about how good they look to their peers socially then real love.
If a woman has a choice between a rich Chad that beats her often and a middle class incel who she shares much more in common with her and is her match in terms of looks she'll take Chad Everytime.
It sucks. I hope nawalts exist, just have seen one yet.
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Because if you think about this logically, the female equivalent to your current self has the same perspective you do. Meaning, they are thinking the same things and doing the same things. And for whatever reason those things are preventing them from having a mate. So how would you ever meet each other. To meet the equivalent of yourself you have to be willing to be the person you actually want.
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Females just have to exist, though.
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That’s the most reductionist cop out possible and lacks any central base in rational reasoning.
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It's not. Even feminists admit this. Women are inherently attractive to men.
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If you would be the female equivalent of yourself, would you choose you?
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If I were a woman, I could do significantly better then me, but that power imbalance is kind of the problem, no?
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Exactly.
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wrong, there is no power imbalance. If you were sent to Mars along with 100 other women, i assure you, you will end up hooking up with ALL OF THEM. If the roles were reversed, it would be the opposite. Even if women can't do better, they still want CHAD.
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Hypergamy. The female equivalent of yourself could easily date up
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You shouldn't, but you won't get what you want
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Because you deserve to be the best version of yourself
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Because everyone should work on their flaws to improve the quality of their life and build their self-worth
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Why should I work extra hard for my equivalent?
No one "should" work on their flaws when plenty of rapists jail, abusers and criminals get relationships.
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I was implying that you should work on those things for yourself and not for the purpose of finding somebody
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Why?
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Those "rapists jail, abusers and criminals" have Chad appearance. You don't. Its that simple.
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If all you want is the female version of your brand of self loathing and depression, you’ll never find a relationship because they’re just as insecure as you are.
If you want to personality match, then you’d be better suited gaining the small amount of confidence in yourself, from an internal source, so that you can find someone worth settling down with instead of someone that maximizes you’re pre-existing lack of self esteem with her own lack of self esteem.
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whats bad about being insecure? yet women will LITERALLY date men in fucking PRISON! lol (look it up their are dating sites of women dating guys in prison)
honestly why does it bother you so much (not me) but if a fat man is dating a fat woman. what is wrong with it? they are happy why does the man have to self improve and have a brazilian bikini model wife or he is trash yet some rapist/murderer in prison has women write letters to him lol
fucking clown world
frankly why not just date in your class. ie poor people date poor people, fat people date fat people, rich people date rich people, depressed people date depressed peoeple, "stinky insecure people" date other "stinky insecure people" homeless crackhead man dates homeless crackhead woman. it would be so much easier i honestly think a lot of relationship problems are due to uneven power dynamic. lets be real a rich man will treat a poor woman like trash. so the woman should just be with another poor man instead of trying to shoot for the stars.
but due to american hollywood and mtv we have the "you can do better than that mentality" sure you can probably become a millionaire but would you be happy honestly? maybe the way you live is not that bad after all. people should enjoy the small things in life
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Rule 4
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Because you don’t want to be with a self-loathing, stinking, and completely rude person. I don’t mean to make assumptions about you, but generally if you’re not WILLING to self improve, then everyone will see that. Girls that don’t want to self improve absolutely don’t have any higher chances in dating than guys that don’t want to self improve. I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t even consider actually dating your female equivalent. I’m speaking from experience, I was horrible a few years ago and knew enough people who “were like me”. None of them was a person i’d want to date.
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lol virtue signaller i'd be fine with a female match she does not have to be a brazilian bikini model
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Then go out and find that match. If you’re actually working for it, you will find her sooner or later.
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but sure my approach is more to look out for a match but you know try to enjoy the small shit in life
no but she will think she is better than me. its kinda silly. i have seen that shit in my family too lol. my grandad was an illiterate peasant in my ancestral land, my grandma was TOOTHLESS and an illiterate peasant yet when she got her inheritance she cheated on my grandad with A FUCKING GAY MAN because she thought she was "better" than him! lol and the dude was not even attracted to her lol
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Women don't approach or try to get with men who aren't Chad.
Many women are entitled because of how easy it is to hook up.
Dating apps are easier for women than men.
How does this not apply to dating and relationships?
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I don’t mean to make assumptions about you
And yet you are
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just showermaxx brah
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No. I’m taking about my own experiences with people, and try to use my experience to give you an answer.
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You mean using an anecdote to prescribe a solution to someone you diagnosed based on an anecdote?
Are you sure you're not retarded in any way?
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Let’s see: I’m mentally and physically healthy, am not filled with anger, and have an awesome social life. Yeah pretty sure I’m less retarded than you. I’m sure you can do better at insulting me
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Guys, guys. Women rate 8/10 as 5/10. And they all inflate their own ratings.
So a 3/10 will think she is a 5/10 and that her looks match is an 8/10.
And a 1/10 thinks she is a 3/10, and that she deserves at least a 6/10 guy. And you can bet your right arm that she tried her luck and got pumped and dumped by chad while she was ignoring your 5/10 ass. And she will try again, simply because women...
When you translate what she says, it is true.
We literally have tons of polls proving this. Why are you all getting mad. What she says makes sense, when you translate it.
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Because men are inherently disposable and women are inherently valuable. Thus you have to prove your worth because you have a Y chromosome.
Women are the most protected thing on the planet. Men fall somewhere between a ferret and a skunk when it comes to being protected by society.
Men would rather save a ferret than a fellow man.
It's hyperbole but it's true. This is how society had conditioned us to value men