AITA For choking a girl?

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I know that title makes me sound like a monster but hear me out...

I’ve been hooking up with this girl on a regular basis for a little over a month and she’s really into rough sex. Pretty Emuch every time we’re doing it she’ll tell me she wants me to pull her hair, slap her, choke her, etc. I should point out that prior to “the incident” I only got rough with her when she explicitly told me she wanted me to.

So 3 days ago we’re doing it and she’s on top, I flipped us over into missionary position and put my hand on her neck to choke her. Unlike all previous times, she’s hadn’t told me to do this, I just assumed she’d be into it since that’s normally what she’s into. Well boy was I wrong! She instantly freaked out and told me to get the fuck off of her, which of course I did. I asked her what was wrong and she told me what I had just done was not okay at all and that she was going to leave. I was pretty dumbfounded so I just sat there in silence while she quickly got dressed and left. I’ve tried to get I touch with her a couple times since the. But it seems like she’s just ghosting me.

I feel horrible for freaking her out like that but at the same time I was only doing something that she had specifically requested I do to her many times in the past. I should also note that it’s not like I was strangling the life out of her, I had my hand on her neck but was applying almost no pressure, I definitely wasn’t impeding her ability to breath or speak in any way.

Other than this girl I have zero experience with this kind of sexual dynamic so I need to know, AITA?

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NAH sounds just confusing