Dolostrich and the False Accusation

I almost feel bad about posting because, as previously stated, Dolostrich isn't nearly as bad as the majority of JNMILs I read about here. I think she straddles the line between here and r/raisedbynarcissists, while occasionally exhibiting some JustYes behavior. She's an odd duck.

That said, I've found posting to be kind of cathartic, so I'll keep it up from time to time.

In Dolostrich's mind, an accusation is the same as proof. If she thinks you've done something, you've done it and no amount of explanation or evidence will change her mind.

A while back, we had gathered at her and FIL's house for dinner, as SIL had recently returned from a weeklong camping trip with her church youth group. Fun, apparently, had been had by all. Before dinner, she and Wife had been talking about the trip and SIL had recounted an amusing anecdote.

Fast forward to dinnertime, and Dolostrich was saying the prayer. She expressed thanks that SIL had returned safely from camp. This was enough of a reminder of SIL's funny story that Wife and SIL smiled during the prayer. That was it, just a smile.

Dolostrich ended the prayer and immediately started yelling that she didn't deserve to be made fun of and it was really rude of wife and SIL to laugh at her. She then stood up and stalked to her bedroom, slamming the door. Wife, SIL, and FIL all tried to explain about the funny story, but Dolostrich wouldn't back down. She declared that until she got an apology from both SIL and Wife, then she wouldn't talk to them.

This wasn't too bad for Wife and I as we hadn't yet had to move in. SIL, on the other hand was a teenager and still living at home. Dolostrich was true to her word and pretended SIL didn't exist for three days. She wouldn't talk to her or acknowledge her existence in any way. SIL broke down and apologized. Dolostrich berated her again for making fun of her and ended the silent treatment.

Wife lasted about a week before giving a half apology at SIL's request. Apparently, Dolostrich was still being salty to her and FIL because she hadn't heard from Wife. Wife did it to help out SIL and FIL.

Having gotten what she wanted, Dolostrich graciously allowed herself to interact with us again.