AITA lying, socially unaware flatmate
I moved into this new place just 5 weeks ago(2 bedroom), thinking that I had finally found a person I could trust. I even told him a bit about the issues I had in old places with there not being hot water or something and he said that "I think if the landlord doesn't fulfil their duty to provide the utilities, then the tenant shouldn't have to pay rent". you'll see why this is ironic at the end.
While we did get along amazingly, I did notice that he had lied about the fact that the room came with a dresser when I came to view it but I let it slide. 2. The fridge didn't get cold. But I was only told a half truth(that the fridge temp fluctuated) after I had paid the deposit, rent and moved in. AND NOT TO MENTION THAT SMART FRIDGES BEEP WHEN THE TEMP DROPS SO DURING NIGHT EARLY MORNING OF COURSE I WOULD HAVE TO WAKE UP AND TURN IT OFF SEVERAL TIMES. He didn't mention the prospect of buying a new now but I ASSUMEd he'd just buy a new one soon. I let this go on for 3 WEEKS w/o fridge, only asking him a total of 2 times very politely about the status of the fridge, not wanting to seem like I was nagging. Of course I was pissed, not only because of the sheer inconvenience but the fact that he would never update me, I had to ask HIM and when I did he would have an attitude about it or make the excuse that he is waiting for his friend to move so he could get his friend's old fridge for free. Despite all this, I kept it together and we maintained a good relationship. 3 week mark arrives and I go "is the fridge coming or not" in a slightly pissed off voice, he continues with a 3 minute bullshit excuse. I reply with "but it's like going 3 weeks without a fridge" in the same tone. I say "okay" and go to my room to sleep.Mind you he slams the door after like a self-important idiot. It was at this point that he began to disgust me. another 2-3 weeks have passed and we pretty much just say 'hello" and 'goodbye' to each other which is a draaastic change from how much we used to talk in the beginning. Of course I am also angry that all he could muster up was a lame and unemphatic "sorry" but not financial compensation for example.
As he bought and owns all the furniture inside it was his responsibility to replace it. From his point of view, I understand wanting to wait for your friend to get a free fridge, but the LEAST you could do is keep me updated about when it is coming, apologise profusely and try to not act like a fucking cunt (he does other not-appropriate-for-shared-living-space shit).
I mean things are cordial, im moving out in 2 weeks ofc, there has been no fight but im so fucking pissed/uncomfortable. I know im not the asshole but I feel like it for making the statement(body lang) that I dislike him by suddenly not engaging in conversation (he hasn't initiated any) and clearly avoiding him.
Posted Jun 4, 2019, 3:26 PM UTC