The topic came up while out having drinks with the girls (all early to mid 20s). Apparently I'm sheltered for not knowing people talk about random things (including constitutional law) whilst doing the deed. What's the deal? How common is it? What do you talk about? Am I missing out on something?
Posted Jun 3, 2010, 7:05 AM UTC
Occasionally happens with my girlfriend, though she's also the one who once told me to "just shut up and have sex with me." depends on the mood, hard rough type stuff tends to not be good for talking.
When you marry you will find out just how normal this is, in fact after several years together, sex is one of the subjects hardly discussed at all. The kids, car, jobs about the house, finances and the dick at work being the most commonly talked about while going through the mechanics of mutual relief.
Sure, I've heard that plenty of times and understand it to an extent. But what about people that haven't been married for years? I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years (not very long in the long run, I know) but I can't recall a time when a non-sexual thought has crossed my mind while at it. There might be a "we need to be quick" but we don't go on to discuss all the other things that need to get done. Why are these 24 year old college students having conversations during sex?
l see what you mean, well my advice would be to hold onto the magic you have together for as long as you are able to because one thing for sure, it will end one day. When l was with my wife, then girlfriend, we often talked about other things, definitely not during those vital moments but during foreplay and afterwords and thirty years later we are so relaxed together that we have discussed ideas about how the new kitchen will look or the kid's school trip during sex, but l suppose you will think that we are just another boring couple, ha ha.
I don't think it's boring at all. I think it's great that you can be so relaxed with each other like that and I imagine it's perfectly normal in marriage, not to say that the fun is lost. I just don't understand how the youngin's of today do it, especially with someone they've only been with for a few months.
Whoa whoa whoa, hold on a second there....
Sex after you're married? I don't understand...
It was shagging before we married,- back of the car stuff
My bf freaked out when I told him I think of nothing sexual when I masturbate or we have sex. He thought he was doing soemthing wrong, it wasn't that... Even if I'm about to cum or talking dirty or if we using our toys, I just think of mundane things: 'Oh shiii... That feels louds moans I need to go to the post office tomorrow, ah yeah,yeah,yeah ffffffuuuu we're out of milk! AH YES I LIKE IT LIKE THIS FUCK, YES, YES did I pay my phone bill or not? OH I'M GONNA CUM! I forgot the oven on I think, I'M CUMMING, I'M CUMMING shit, we're out of bread too I'M CUMMING....Aaaaaaaaah*
At least I don't say this outloud.
Clearly you have been watching Spartacus:Blood and Sand.
i've only encountered this once. i think it's kinda weird. not totally bad though
I take it she brought it up? What did you talk about? I just don't understand how your mind can wonder like that.
yeah, it's weird. it's been a few years so i don't really remember. it might have been about horses, she worked at a stable. or maybe some philosophical shit, we were both philosophy majors.
Normal for me? Yes. Normal for the general populace? No.
You have no idea how random sexual conversation can be until you start singing this song right in the middle of sex...
i can vouch for this....
What do you talk about? How does it come up?
Sadly that video is blocked in my country on copyright grounds. What song is it?
it happens
-in&out sex- so hows things today honey? pump pump pump change position? guess what my boss said to me pump pump pump
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We were having sex one time, missionary, and I'm plugging away at her. Out of nowhere, she stops moaning, looks down at herself, and exclaims "I'm So Tanned!"
Automatic Fail.
No. It's a sign that the sex sucks.
Mata Hari thought so... That's what the 'Honey Trap' is all about. Female spies ask the right questions at the right times and listen well.
True, that lady had it down. But I always assumed she got her info before/after sex. I can't imagine a guy responding with much more than "yeah" or "okay" or "sure, whatever you want baby" during sex.
Look how well that worked for her...