Finding the right person

This may sound like a post for r/dating_advice, but it’s a bit more than that. So I’m 23 and disabled. Not wheelchair bound, but I had a stroke at birth and my arm is a bit smaller and a tad “deformed” in a sense and I limp a bit. I’m mentally “normal” and i don’t have any limitations to what i can do, assuming i can do it one-handed. I’ve never had a girlfriend, still a virgin in regards to going all the way, and it’s honestly all because I’m terrified of a girl I eventually fall for will not want to be with me because I’m different. Throughout college and life it’s been hard(er) to make genuine life-long friends, and though I have, I feel like I sometimes need to overcompensate for being different.

Damn near 1/4 of the Big Ten school I attended see me around campus and know me as an inspiration for what I’ve been through and how I’ve never really let things get me depressed for long periods of time, and yet I only feel close to a handful of people. I know “quality over quantity” when it comes to friends, but I wish I could connect on a deeper level with more people. Back to the girl situation, I just don’t really know how or when to ask a girl on a real date more than a “friends date”. I’ve always been the guy that girls are friends with but nothing more. Now that I’ve recently graduated I want to finally be more than that guy.

Advice would be wonderful, and have an incredible day!