The only way for an incel to truly ascend, to truly find peace and happiness in his sad life, is to accept that he will never be loved.

Let's face it: it's really not the lack of sex that's the hangup for us. Any of us can simply pay a prostitute for sex. Even if it's illegal. Sex is extremely easy to get by paying for it. But because many incels deep down want to be loved and desired by a woman, to have a true companion who loves you deeply and is always supporting you, whatever, is why so many incels are fucking miserable. Incels are lonely. Even when the incel accepts the blackpill as reality.

We see many incels who see escorts regularly. Some live in cities or countries where prostitution is legal. But many of these guys are still miserable. Because they are having sex, but only because they're paying a girl to hold back her repulsion towards him. Some are really good at acting intimate to the point it's convincing, but for some, the thought that it's fake never leaves their head. That there's no intimacy in this experience. It's...empty. Sure, she can act really sweet, but an insecure incel might not be able to stop thinking that in reality, she can't stop thinking about how much she hates this shy, unattractive, unmanly dude who was never good enough to even date or kiss. Women are repulsed by men like this. If they weren't, then these guys would be either slaying or would easily find the love of their lives, and not have to pay for it. Things like arranged marriage, and abhorrent things sex slavery, and assault, aren't a solution to loneliness. There is nothing intimate about forcing a woman to be with you, or fuck you. I wouldn't want to be in an arranged marriage to a woman who doesn't fucking like me.

It's entirely possible to have sex without love. Just look at hookup culture. But I think many of us still have this belief that sex with a girl you love is the pinnacle of intimacy. Think about it: she both loves you and finds you attractive enough to let you see her naked, her breasts, butt, genitals, and to let you perform an act that is why we have humans on this earth. She has so much trust in you that she is happy to be in such a highly vulnerable state, and not only that, but she enjoys the sex. Sex with someone you love, on paper, sounds heavenly. The passion, the deep bond, the experience, the laughs, the climax from both of you, the fun. And even after the sex, just being in bed, the both of you totally nude, just cuddling and having some nice pillow talk, sharing laughs, is on paper extremely amazing. Having someone that's the level after a friend.

But it's not like this. Women can't truly love men. They can lust for him if he's tall, fit and good looking, and can like what he provides for her (from sex, protection, resources). But she'll never love a man like a man loves her. We all know how women hate men who display weakness, vulnerability, emotions that aren't either masculine stoicism or anger. Even crying about trauma is enough for a woman to think of you as a loser in her eyes. Women don't find male virginity attractive at all. Women want a man that other women want. Not a loser that she can have all to herself. Women are hypergamous, only want the top tier of men, and will settle for lower tier men when she is past her prime. But settling, as we know it, isn't love. These relationships often end up bad for the guy. The rare amounts of sex, the constant nagging, the fighting (all couples fight but this is more constant), and sometimes, even cheating by her. The divorce rape. This isn't love. A woman who never considered you when you were both young and in your primes, only for her to suddenly crawl to you because you have money now, or she needs someone to raise her bastard child that Chad left, isn't "love". Even Chads don't get loved. They're used for sex and status, and many Chads have been burned by women who've cheated on them, MeToo'd him. Hence why some Chads don't date much, and just hookup with girls before kicking them out. And don't get me started with dark triad men and killers, abusers, and horrible men who never are alone.

Remember, she's never yours. It's only your turn, and you better pray a superior man doesn't show interest. Men are not human to women. Just toys, tools that can be thrown away when she can get someone better.

I don't know how the men dating women do it. Are they delusional to think their woman loves them? Are they just coping?

But even with all these red flags with women, many of us (I included) still strongly desire a deep, loving, long term bond with a girl. Basically, we want a female best friend that we get to also kiss, hold hands, cuddle with, and have sex with. But we'll never get this. I think this is why so many low tier men unironically have waifus, because these animated girls are written by men to be, well, ideal women. Women who actually love and care for men, women who aren't insanely shallow. Maybe our parents brainwashed us, maybe Disney did, I don't fucking know. But the blackpill isn't a source of comfort for all of us. For many, it's a harsh reality that has destroyed us.

The only way to be happy as an incel is to be happy despite knowing you'll never be loved. If you can do that, you will find peace. No pain or wanting to die. If you can be happy never being loved, and be happy simply going to escorts, knowing that it's all fake and you're just there to bust a nut, and you're past the point of being lonely, then you've made it. Otherwise, unless realistic looking sexbots who would also be fantastic romantic partners, or advanced VR where an ugly guy can find love with a still pretty sentient being becomes a thing in our lifetimes, life is gonna suck. I also hope you have a tight knit group of male friends, or life will be hell.

Being a man is a lonely life. Especially if he's less than ideal. Because men are disposable.

I hope one day a solution to the loneliness, both romantic and non romantic, for lost boys like us.