TIL two musicians fatefully avoided flying on "The Day the Music Died" plane that killed Buddy Holly, Ritchie Valens, and JP 'The Big Bopper' Richardson. Waylon Jennings - generously gave his seat to Richardson, who had flu, and Tommy Allsup - lost his seat to Valens on a coin toss.
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en.wikipedia.orgPosted Oct 11, 2019, 2:24 PM UTC
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And Waylon's future drug issues all stemmed from that night and the last thing he said to Buddy.
Buddy had joked he hoped he didnt freeze on the bus (the heaters were dead) and Waylon joked back with, well i hope your plane crashes.
Survivors guilt is no joke
I mean its not just that he lived and Buddy died. Knowing that was the last thing you said to your friend (and you know Buddy knew it was a joke). shit
I once told someone I really cared about that if they didn't want to be an adult about an important romantic/legal issue we were having that I never wanted to see them again. They ended up killing themself that night. I will never be able to forgive myself for that.
As shitty as that is, you can't blame yourself for that. This is coming from someone who has not been in a situation like yours, but if I were, I'd want someone to say to me what I'm saying to you right now. It's not your fault.
You shouldn't blame yourself for their action, that was purely there's to make and you had no influence on it. You were simply trying to get that person to grow up and make decisions.