[Question] [Spoilers] [CoS] A player concerned about how disruptive another player is whenever anyone tries to speak up actions and descriptions.
Hey all,
I wanted to ask more experienced players and/or about how to deal with another player is pretty disruptive. We have started the campaign of Curse of Strahd, so there will be examples I would use to explain the situation.
SPOILERS AHEAD!!
This player means well and he's pretty nice, but I must say that he gets a little too enthusiastic whenever there is an encounter or changes in our game. I feel the same excitement (since it is one of my first groups outside of friends) ; however, like to recap on information that had happened recently or talk about strategies on how to deal with it before DM could finish his descriptions, answers, or interaction. This would include a player trying to do an action/ ability check; I have been silenced in the corner at times when trying to only do perception or investigation checks.
I was there since session 0 to build our characters, but I missed the first session because of sickness. He and another player who had just joined in that first session went through the first two floors of the house. They went through alot like the wolf's den, kitchen, and the suit of armors. I had missed the interactions and encounter so I didn't know what was the dangers they had experienced. When our characters first met, he broke down all that he and the new player encountered in the house. I would ask in character what was the original status of the rooms or object when the DM wasn't going through descriptions. When something changed like the wolves or the suit of armor as the DM would describe, he would say this was previously so and so, even while the DM would start to start his second sentence of the description. Our DM is experienced and young, but he does quite alot in his life. I don't want our sessions to stress him out on disruptions.
The disruptions includes when a new player would join and the DM would explain how we rolled stats and how to find certain ones, but he would try to explain stats when he doesn't know it completely or correctly. He's not a rules lawyer or intentionally rude and I know he's just excited and means well, but I feel a little annoyance and some frustrations from the DM. I understand of helping if the DM is busy with another player and try to find out the print in the book; otherwise, I would say to wait for DM to answer so they may justify the rules or see the print.
How have you as a player or DM approached this situation? Should I try to reach out to the player myself or try to talk to the DM first?
Edit: Thank you all that had replied. this had given me better confidence on what I had originally planned! Thank you all!
Posted Oct 25, 2019, 4:50 PM UTC · edited
I play adventurers League and I've come across a lot of people like this. The best way to deal with it is to talk to him one on one before the game and tell him that its disrupting when he interrupts people and ask him to keep it down. Then, if he interrupts during a game, call him out - "buddy, don't interrupt the DM/player" / "buddy, let them finish saying what they are saying".
It may seem rude, but it's actually not. And it's been immensely helpful in my experience. Most people who have a habit of interrupting people don't realize they are doing it, so calling them out on it helps them realize it, and helps them get better at reigning it in.
Thank you! That makes sense and a bit helpful. they're not a new player, but a bit new to the more public groups. The campaign we are playing in is in Adventurer's league.