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powerbrows

I'm in my mid-30's, unmarried (w/ one child) and have no friends.

:question: Questions

This isn't meant to be a serious conversation even though the headline reads like one. I'm more interested in finding out how to make new friends. A lot of my old friends went their separate ways after college and many had children (myself included), but I miss that element of having friends and just hanging out from time to time.

I just wanted to see if anyone else can relate and if so, maybe what they did to help address this aspect of life. I'm overall pretty happy with my life, but I do admit that I miss having friends to BS with every so often. I play video games online and that does give me some social interaction as well, but it's just not the same as having a few friends to BS with.

Posted Nov 7, 2019, 8:45 PM UTC

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danger_danimal•

Depending on your child’s age, parent/activity groups are a great place to find potential friendships.

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powerbrowsOP•

My child is 12 years old so I feel like maybe that ship has sailed? Maybe if she gets into sports or something I can try, but so far she hasn't really expressed much interest in playing sports.

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Icommentwhenhigh•

Kind of like moving into a new town, try to look for something new, find a community you can gel with.

Easier said, I know, because others have said the same to me, and I cringe -

As an introvert, volunteering was awesome- just look for some event or thing that you might be interested in.. people give you things to do so you don’t feel so lost

Good luck

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anythingextra•

I think it depends alot on what type of hobbies u hav other than gaming. If ur into sports even just going to a sports bar during ur teams games is an easy way to meet like minded ppl. Or if ur into music theres always concerts and fests, art go to a museum or take an art class, etc... its hard to give ideas about socializing without knowing what ur interests r.

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powerbrowsOP•

That's a good point. I don't really have a lot of hobbies beyond gaming. I grew up playing all kinds of sports, but after high school no longer played any sports. I golf occasionally, but nothing in the realm of team sports. I've always wanted to be more artistically inclined, but I'm afraid my brothers took all of that talent. I can't draw worth my life nor can I play an instrument. Maybe I can try taking lessons or something as that's always piqued my curiosity.

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anythingextra•

Thats def a start any kind of thing like art and music is fairly easy to find social situations to meet other ppl. From lessons and classes to even just hanging around an art supply store or instrument shop its just a matter of getting out there i think. The more opportunities u take to meet ppl the more likely u r to make a friend.

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