Super realistic dream fucked me up emotionally
19M virgin, never been in a relationship, it's becoming a progressively larger issue as time passes and last night I had the most realistic dream I have ever had, to the point in the dream I remember thinking "dude this is waaay too good to be a dream" but dumb ass me always figured out it was indeed a dream. THIS IS COMPLETELY TRUE, believe it if you want, but I need this off my chest.
Usually my dreams don't follow any narrative or anything, usually it's just one specific scene of something and that's it, but last night I lived a full like 3 hours while dreaming the first time. Oh yeah I said first time, I woke up at around 3:30 AM, went back to sleep, and continued the fucking plot line, twice.
It started as I was having lunch with my family and my best friend during a weekend, odd situation I've never found myself in. When the dream started (just before lunch) I had begun to text a girl that according to the dream's plot was a crush of mine around a year ago (this person doesn't exist, her appearance was one composed of different features from different girls in my life, in the best way possible, pretty much my dream girl) but for some unspecified reason we couldn't be together at the time, and in our texts she told me the unspecified reason was now gone (maybe an abusive bf but cannot recall), and that we should meet up. I told her I was home and that she could stop by (weird for this to happen, it'd make more sense if we arranged a meet-up at some other location, not for me to tell her to come over right?) and eventually she did.
To reinforce how creepy realistic this dream was, I remember the time between setting up the meeting and her arriving, I remember talking about random stuff with my friend and family. It felt like an hour or so.
Then she arrived and we warmly greeted each other, she joined us at the table and we started all talking.
Then the best part. I remember someone (can't recall who) asking her whether we had a thing going on given how we were treating eachother (hugs and stuff), and she replied and I quote "no, not yet" and looked at me. I kissed her and said something corny like "we do now". I remember the pleasantly surprised but shocked face she had, and the shock of everyone else present. We kept talking after that, albeit in a different context, with her sitting on my lap. We were at this for what felt like hours, then we started making out and went to our living room, in which I distinctly remember the blinds being closed despite it being daytime so it was dark, but not pitch black. Skipping descriptions, it was realistic to a degree I've never seen before, this is where I thought "dude this is a dream" but reached the conclusion it wasn't. I could feel every aspect, her mouth, her body, her breath, her hair, everything. After being at this for what felt like about 30 minutes, we started uhm, shifting gears. And that's exactly when I woke up. You can imagine what's going through my mind at that point realising I was dreaming, a mixture of:
- what the fuck
- no no no take me back in
- What. The. Fuck. Just. Happened?
I fall asleep again as I get hit with a tidal wave of sadness. And then began to dream again. The second part continued a day or so after, with me going for lunch with friends after uni in a café I'm pretty sure doesn't exist. I remember talking about specific stuff with them like our projects and stuff, I kept texting the girl back and forth as we ate. We by chance passed by her and her group of friends and we shared a casual kiss and chatted for a while. This second part felt like maybe an hour. By then I was like "haha silly me of course yesterday happened, I didn't dream it, if I did I wouldn't be having lunch with friends and a girl that doesn't exist in a place that doesn't exist either. To ensure I'm not dreaming, I'm gonna pinch myself", and sneakily behind the table I did so.
And then I woke up again.
By this point I was starting to get pissed off and even sadder. I went to the bathroom, washed my face and took a piss and sat there for a good 10 minutes staring at my own reflection to ensure I was actually awake now.
Then I went back to sleep and had a random completely unrelated wet dream to top off the night. I'm pretty pissed off and sleep deprived today as a result. Good times. Thanks for reading through, this was so weird I had to share it with someone.
Posted Nov 13, 2019, 2:14 PM UTC
Sounds like you are just very lonely. Go join a dating app or something. It might be scary but it’s better than that happening again right?
Indeed, I've already joined Tinder about a week ago but so far no matches, unsurprising considering I have almost no pictures of myself. All in due time I guess.
Then you should work on making your profile more appealing. I’m definitely not an expert on dating but that should help
Don't expect a ton of matches even with good pictures. Woman get a fuck ton of likes so mist end up ignoring the majority.
Do you have any pictures of yourself that were taken by someone else? I feel like those are better for Tinder profile pics than "selfies", which tend not to look good for guys. Bonus points if it's a professionally taken picture, like at a family member's wedding or something. Include a picture of yourself out with a group of people too, even if it's just your family or something, since it gives the impression that you go out and do stuff. Even if you're mostly a homebody, having a picture of you with others gives a good impression.
I think it also helps to keep your profile description short and to-the-point. A brief list of some things you're into, including things you can do socially like going to concerts, followed by a funny quip like "Some days you're the pigeon, some days you're the statue" or something similar.
Also, once you get to the point where you're happy with your profile and you've started getting matches, you might try deleting your profile and creating a new one with your latest pics/description -- Tinder gives you a "newbie" bonus for the first few days or so you're on Tinder. Also, on that note, you could try other dating apps too. I've never had any lucky with Bumble, but I know a few guys who got matches on that while never having any luck with Tinder.
I've also heard it helps to include your height in your profile description.
Some interesting stuff there, I'll take it into account.