Reducing Rage Occurrences

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The only way I have gotten any control over this is through some severe mental gymnastics. Genuinely, you have to find a way to either break up with your anger (and I really mean that- its like being in an abusive relationship with your own emotions), or channel it. Every single time I notice someone breaking a "rule" that I think is important the Ragemonster appears and its my decision and responsibility to do something with him. Honestly the way I did it requires a lot of discipline and the willingness to accept that even if my emotions seem out of my control, they aren't. I had to give my anger a face, a way to mentally look at him and say, "No, you aren't in charge here." For a long time that was as far as it got because that was hard enough. But now that I've learned how to put him away, tell him that he is not good for me and shut him up, I could work on the stuff that was causing him to appear. For me it was being completely and utterly unable to handle what was in front of me to the point where my brain would shut off almost automatically and rush into rage mode before I even knew what was happening. And this would happen with almost anything. That part is different for everyone, but after getting diagnosed I am more sure than ever that the Ragemonster can be subdued. Personally I am getting medication to help, but I don't think even that is going to fix everything.

The first step I took was instead of trying to go from RAGEY to :D I tried to fimd what I called my Neutral Zone. Finding a quiet place was kind of essential for me to do this at first. Basically I practiced turning off or ignoring my emotions until I could calm down. No happy faces or hugs or rainbows but no snapping or negative interactions either.

I would also HUGELY suggest finding a counselor (edit: I have massive and intense emotions that were being caused by smaller, easier-to-miss emotions like a lack of confidence and finding those is much easier with a trained professional and will help tone down the rage) and second the importance of finding a physical activity. Mine is lifting weights as well :)

Yes me all the time. I feel the exact same way every time anyone does anything remotely stupid or annoying. I have no patience and I start to rage inside and sometimes I end up expressing it too. How to control or stop this? I don't know.