Was your pwBPD into astrology and various "woo"?

Oh my god yes.

Actually, she took a print of my palm to a palm reader about a month before I secretly left her.....strangely enough the guy didn't notice the fact that I was planning to leave in my palm....lol.

This has been my cluster B experience as well. My NPD mom was very into astrology, and loved to guess people’s signs. It was an adoration-seeking activity, and also a way for her to feel powerful over other people.

My ex BPD boyfriend and ex BPD friend were also into metaphysical stuff: Kabbalah, Wicca, Illuminati...anything magical and mysterious. I think it has some connection to their chronic feelings of emptiness and need to feel like a special little snowflake. And it was usually a fleeting surface interest. I know people who are Wiccan and are really into that belief system, but with the cluster Bs it was more like projecting an image and dressing a certain way to get attention. They weren’t committed to it or anything - more like a hobby, or temporary personality to fill their empty souls.

By buying into this association, it’s basically witch-hunting by creating a connotation with specific interests to the behavioral disorder. The irony.

I’d look into what people actually get out of the things they’re interested in. It’s the patterns in behaviors, decision-making, social interactions one should be looking out for.

And no, I wouldn’t paint people this way by their interests alone. It’s kinda hypocritical. And by doing so, one may miss the forest for the trees. And predictably will fall into the same patterns of victimhood again.

Yes, my exfwBPD was. She kept saying that she gets hot-headed so much because she's a Scorpio, and that we get along so well together because I'm a Sagittarius, and how the horoscope is always so correct it's mind-boggling. Also told me about crystals and how they help her sleep better.

I think it was her way of

• shifting responsibility for her actions from herself to higher forces;
• searching for a magical cure which would "make her normal" overnight;
• like u/Shalasie said, feeling powerful over other people, like she's endowed with some secret knowledge other people aren't.

Mine goes through phases where she gets super Christian, but she never goes to church. 🤷‍♀️

Breadth-first search in data structures. Thanks for reminding me I need to study for an exam, lol. And, yes, every single one of them is OBSESSED with anything that makes them not accountable for their actions.

I am into it, but the pwBPD thinks it's ridiculous. So, no. Haha.

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Oh big time. It was the first thing I noticed about my expwBPD. Every discussion was dominated with abstract astrology and planetary references. How the galaxy worked etc. She was so into it that she would use it as a means to make me feel small for not "knowing."

It really got to such a point that even humoring her and being involved in the discussion was an exercise in frustration.

Oh, I definitely see this.

My exPWBPD liked to feel superior to others, unless it was a 'strong man' who made him feel special by being part of the gang.

My mother (uBPD) is more heavily into all kind of woo and always has been. I think partly it's a lack of identity and core self for her - it makes her feel smart and knowledgeable, particuarly as she always sees her woo beliefs as 'scientifically proved' and the 'real' truth. But she is also obsessive about control and micromanagement, and I think woo gives her a sense of control over the outside world that she probably lacks in herself.

Meeting anyone new, it would be "what is your starsign?"

She compared our natal charts and we weren't so compatible on there. I was always resentful of that because compatibility for me is all about how much effort you put in the relationship (things you can control) not where the sun and moon are.

It was only after the breakup where I found her anonymous blog that I realised how much of an actual thing it was for her. She is all into magical thinking, to the point where one day she was splitting and devaluing me and looked at the clock and it was showing her favourite numbers and she said "that's how I knew DiscardedNon and I wouldn't work"

Note, that she never mentioned all this to me. She was talking to her followers on that anonymous platform. There is so many heartbreaking things I found, lies, neverending list of lies and I stil can't wrap my head around it. If you think you know how BPDs think, think again.

I even showed my psychologist so much what she wrote and my T, who treats BPD and all, had trouble reading all of it! She had to get take breaks in between.

Yes yes yes. I remember we got into it when I was coming home from work, I didn't know anything about BPD or anything but she was being "off", and I thought she been drinking probably was but yea.. She had a completeeeeeeeeeee meltdown because I didnt want to do it, then when I got home I did it, but it was wrong and yea......

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