My motivation is half providing for them, and half it being my career.

Are they your motivation then? I don’t provide for others yet but I feel obligated to contribute in my family as a smart strong underachieving male

Fuck yes.  I support three people on my income, so the thought of losing my job scares the hell out of me.

I should have changed jobs years ago (too much stress), but I'm too scared to take the risk.

Specifically men, others too, do you struggle with anxiety relating toward making a living? Because of your own expectations or others? And does this hold you back (paradoxically) from making your way in the world?

Anxiety related to “providing”